We live in a society, which means that, willy-nilly, we will be faced with unsolicited advice and comments. How can we stop reacting to them? In fact, it is very difficult to completely gain immunity from other people’s opinions, but what is definitely within our power is to learn to build boundaries that allow us not to let any spoken words pass through us. Why do we react? If inside there are some dissatisfaction with oneself that a person fixates on; any hint or comment will cause a storm of emotions and indignation. It is difficult to offend a person with words that do not in any way reflect his own opinion about himself. How not to react? 1- Most people are fixated on themselves. And when someone speaks out, advises, most often he speaks about himself and his perception and this does not always suit you. 2- Hear, but do not listen. There may be different opinions, but only you know what is best for you, and only you can decide how to live your life. 3- Let the opinion be (unless it offends you as a person) as a fact, but this does not mean at all that he must be followed.4- Develop self-worth in yourself. This will help you know yourself and your inner world better. Dependence on other people's opinions is the path of unfreedom. This is an eternal race to please everyone, to adapt, to control - do you need it? If the answer is NO, make a promise to yourself “That there is only an opinion about my life and it is the most important for me!” The better a person knows himself, his injuries, the more difficult it is to hurt and offend him. And if we value and respect ourselves, others also read this, how we can behave and how we can’t. I would like to suggest an exercise to identify the reasons why you still care about other people’s opinions: Take a piece of paper and write down the answers to the questions below: 1- Why do I care what others say or think about me?2- What will happen to me if someone says/thinks bad things about me? (give the answer not from the head, but how you feel inside). 3- What will happen to me then? Three answers that will help to follow, what we are afraid of when we think and worry, about what others will say. To sign up for a consultation on link ➔ Sign up Your psychologist, Larisa Degtyar Phone - +7 (926) 782-13-57 My telegram channel https://t.me/degtyar_psy