How to stop being a victim and learn to defend your interests? Awareness of the problem is the first step to solving it. How does it work? If you consciously pay attention to your own opinions and interests over and over again, energy for change accumulates. Image created with the help of AI Midjourney We ask ourselves questions regularly: how do I feel now? What do I think about this? What do I end up doing? There is an opportunity to choose your actions and change them. What actions and beliefs may be signs of a victim’s state - check yourself! Comparing yourself with other people not in your favor, the belief that others are lucky, but you are constantly unlucky; Confidence that you have bad luck character, it is difficult to tolerate you, you have no talents and abilities; Confidence that without other people you will not achieve anything at all, you will not cope with your life, “they know better”; Difficulty in evaluating your work: underestimating your successes, or the belief that others have little appreciation for what you do for them; Difficulty in refusing another person: it is difficult for you to refuse, even if you don’t want to or it’s hard. The fact that it is difficult for you or that you don’t want it is not an argument for you; Caring for others is more important to you than yourself. What makes us victims is... our own beliefs. When we trust ourselves and our feelings; we know we are good enough; we can cope with life and realize it; we take care of our interests as well as the interests of our loved ones - the victim syndrome disappears. Listen to yourself! Ask often: what am I thinking? What's my opinion? How did it form for me? How do I feel about...? Do I like it or not? Gain experience in your own decisions. Learn to speak about your desires directly, without reproach or expecting others to guess. Find a supportive environment: people who will support you on your path to change and to yourself. Maybe it will be just one or two friends; maybe a psychologist. Remember what you have already succeeded in before, what achievements you have. Even if they seem insignificant, remember the tendency to underestimate your successes and take into account any. If you are not satisfied with the relationship, ask yourself: what need is holding you back, preventing you from leaving? How can she be satisfied in another way? These are just some points to start with. And for individual work specifically with your situation and maximum effect, I invite you to a consultation with me. Sincerely, psychologist Irina Zhueva. If you liked the publication, share with your friends! My website: https://zhuevairina.ru/Zen Channel: https: //dzen.ru/irinazhueva_psy