“You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife,” says one of the biblical commandments. However, today an affair with a married man is not a rare occurrence. Condemning someone is not the purpose of this article - “do not judge, lest you be judged.” This article will focus on the state of mind and psychological comfort of a woman who has an affair with a married man. What ending to the novel are you looking forward to? If there is a beautifully made marriage proposal and a Mendelssohn march, then most likely your expectations will be in vain. And the stronger these expectations, the more painful the disappointment. If a man did not decide to break up with his wife as soon as he met you, then he will not do so in the future. For what? After all, you agreed to his rules - to become a mistress. A man is comfortable, but no sane man would agree to exchange a comfortable state for scandals and divorce proceedings. The main thing in a relationship with a married man is to receive more than to give. You should derive only pleasure from meetings with him. Let him need you a little more than you do. Don't focus only on the man. Lead your own active life: meet friends, go on vacation. The dating schedule is usually set by the man. Change this stereotype, do not adapt to the man. Otherwise, very soon you will cancel all interesting and important meetings for fear that your loved one will be able to see you at this very time. It is even useful to specifically refuse a date with him, informing him with a mysterious smile on his lips about an urgent matter that has arisen. The worst tactic that a mistress can choose is to constantly whine and ask the man to leave his family. Respect yourself and do not call his wife with stories that her husband does not love her. You know about their relationship only from the man’s story. There are, of course, cases when a mistress becomes a wife. But even here there are pitfalls. Be prepared for the fact that if a man has children, he will continue to communicate with them, and therefore see his now ex-wife. Perhaps many of his friends, who are also friends of his wife, will take her side. You simply will not be perceived as a spouse. This option is also possible - friends of your husband’s ex-family will stop communicating with him. Men endure such situations extremely hard, and you will be subconsciously to blame for what happened. And, finally, if you have “retrained” from a mistress to a wife, be prepared to be tormented by thoughts that your spouse, having cheated with you, will be able to cheat on you too. source