Having worked as a family psychologist for more than a quarter of a century, since 1991, I can allow myself certain observations, comparisons and conclusions. Therefore, it is completely obvious to me that the number of betrayals in Russia is noticeably increasing. Moreover, the number of infidelities on the part of wives is especially noticeable. According to my observations, during marriage, about 80% of husbands and about 50% of wives cheat on their spouse at least once. Regularly, that is, systematically, at least 40% of husbands and at least 20% of wives cheat. At the same time, if the majority of cheating husbands successfully keep the secret of their shameful adventures, then the majority of systematically cheating wives still get caught. All because of much greater emotionality than men. The fact is that most men are able to have sex with their lovers simply for the sake of sex, without becoming attached or falling in love with them. Or becoming attached and falling in love as the relationship progresses, sometimes a year or two after the start of an intimate relationship. For ladies, everything is exactly the opposite: women go into an intimate relationship, already experiencing at least some romantic feelings for their lovers. Sex is important here, but still secondary. For men, first sex - then affection and love. For women, on the contrary: first affection and love - only then sex. In practice, this leads to the fact that many cheating men hide their infidelities for years from wives One mistress is replaced by another, their planned rotation is carried out (rotation comes from the Latin word “circular rotation”, and not at all from the word “mouth”, as some people think), and the wife does not even notice it. After all, men can have a mistress without losing their attraction to their wife, without ceasing to love and respect her. (Although this sounds, in the context of events, rather arbitrary and women do not understand how this is even possible). Cheating wives are usually caught quite quickly. After all, if it is quite possible to hide the fact of sex on the side, then the fact of falling in love is almost impossible! Because love for another man automatically causes psychological rejection and physical disgust for their existing husband in women. Hence, the sad statistics: in our time, almost every third husband is faced with the fact of proven or unproven infidelity of his wife. Of course, this is still a light option: after all, according to statistics, as many as 80% of wives are faced with the fact of proven or unproven infidelity!!! That is, men still hurt women two to three times more often than women hurt themselves. The fact is that most modern wives, faced with the infidelity of their husbands and, at first, in a fever, having made some mistakes, In the future, they still pull themselves together! They diligently study Internet resources, read books, consult with psychologists, and still begin to take the right actions. Which, in the end, gives them a positive result: their husbands return back to the family. But many men, faced with their wife’s betrayal or her leaving the family, firstly, make mistakes that are much more serious than women: they raise their hand against their spouse, go on a drinking binge, take revenge on their wife’s lover, etc. Secondly, they consider themselves smarter than everyone else, rely on their own life experience, do not read the necessary reference materials, and do not consult with anyone. Hence, their actions are chaotic and destructive, not bringing him closer, but only moving him away from his goal - normalizing relations with his wife and preserving and improving the marriage. The result is appropriate: Faced with his wife’s betrayal and wanting to save the marriage, many men behave in such a way that they finally lose the woman’s respect and love, thereby losing their family. Hence, the negative consequences of wives’ betrayals that I regularly observe: strokes and heart attacks of husbands, panic attacks, depression, alcoholism, suicide, early death of men. A man and a woman are two equal basic models of a person, formed over millions of years in the process of interaction and adapted to each other. Hence, theoretically, men and women, having created a couple, should live in a happy marriage all their lives. However, in practice, millions of husbands and wives.