If you feel bad, you can’t forget something, something bothers you, worries you, you can help yourself get rid of disturbing thoughts or memories. What you constantly think about has one key property - this event has not ended, an end has not been put, ambiguity remains, the situation has not been resolved or completed. For this reason, the event weighs on you and does not let you go. Of course, the help of a psychologist will be most effective for you, but if for some reason you cannot seek professional help, try to help yourself like this: 1. Plunge into your feelings, pull out a memory, take it apart.2. If possible, tell a loved one, friend, or family member about this. It is important that this person can support you and not interrupt you when you speak and listen completely.3. Write down on a piece of paper what worries you, as well as your feelings in this situation. Identify the most disturbing aspect in your thoughts, memories, what brings you the most discomfort or pain. Think about this key point, look for causes, consequences, connections. The more you talk through, write down your condition, the more you will realize what happened, what you felt then, why the situation does not let you go now. The more you find answers to these questions, the more you will understand the situation, and it will become easier for you. These self-help methods are suitable for people who do not suffer from mental disorders, diseases, and are capable of self-reflection - this is a person’s attention to himself and his consciousness, in particular, to the products of his own activity, as well as some kind of rethinking of them. This work cannot guarantee complete relief from anxiety, but it can definitely reduce the level of anxiety. It all depends on the duration of the experience, the depth, the ability of your psyche to recover, as well as your strength and desire to help yourself. If you feel that you are unable to help yourself, I invite you to a session where we will analyze the reasons for your serious condition, and I will professionally help you return to the state of comfort you need. Sign up for a consultationAuthor: Natalya Dyachenko, psychologist-psychotherapist, Novorossiysk