How do we harm ourselves without noticing it? - The habit of criticizing yourself. The annoying inner critic repeats over and over again: “I’m a loser,” “I’m not capable of anything,” “It’s better not to stick my head out with my shortcomings,” “Others are doing better than me.” We don’t notice how with our own phrases we form a negative attitude towards ourselves, underestimate ourselves, compare ourselves with others, deprive ourselves of motivation and prevent ourselves from doing what is important. At the same time, many people think that it is necessary to motivate yourself to action not with words of support, but reproaches and humiliations. However, this only helps a few. Others suffer from low self-esteem, procrastination and avoidance. How can we treat ourselves differently? To do this, you need to work a little with those thoughts that you most often think about yourself. Here is an example of some self-critical phrases, replacing which with more supportive ones, you can change your life for the better: “I can’t do anything” - “I haven’t figured it out yet, how to do it". Yes, you really may not know something, not be able to do it, and not get what you want. But it doesn't make you any worse. If something fails, it does not mean that you are a failure, stupid or insufficiently competent. Perhaps you need more time to figure something out. “Others do it better than me.” – “Everyone is good at something.” Each person has a different level of training, necessary knowledge and skills. If others are doing something better than you, perhaps they have been in this business for a long time and have spent more resources and time. But once upon a time they also started from scratch. “I didn’t give 100%” - “The ideal is unattainable, but I can do it well enough.” Yes, killing the perfectionist in yourself is not an easy task. Sooner or later, his strict demands will lead to procrastination, procrastination and stress. The only way to cope with it is to make it your ideal - “good enough”. Treat yourself the way you would treat someone dear to you - stop scolding yourself for mistakes, telling yourself that you won’t succeed, pointing out your shortcomings. There is no point in criticizing yourself if it doesn't work at all. Try to approve and support yourself more often, and see what happens. If you want to learn how to find and change your thoughts or reactions that complicate your life, worsen your self-esteem or increase anxiety, I invite you to a consultation! You can sign up via WhatsApp or Telegram by number: 8-985-061-21-06.