Two previous publications - Part 1 and Part 2 - were devoted to an in-depth analysis of 5 barriers that prevent a person from creating a free and happy life and maximizing their potential. However, the most reinforced concrete barrier that people get stuck in front of is dissatisfaction with the quality of relationships in the family or at work. Oceans of vital energy merge into nowhere: - endless clarification of who is right and who is wrong (if it weren’t for you, I would have become the boss, but I would live in Europe) - mutual grievances and reproaches for misunderstanding and lack of support (I gave you my whole life, but you can’t even give me a bouquet of lilies of the valley, and I gave you my entire salary, and you treat me with nothing, and forever your head hurts...), - fear of losing the love of your partner and being left alone (who will need me with three children, who will need me bald and sick...), - fear of being rejected and punished (they are not promoted in position, they are deprived of bonuses, they can fire you at any time...) and so on. I, of course, am exaggerating. But over the years of practical work with people, I have not yet met a person who would not experience similar experiences with certain shades and nuances and would not think in a similar way about his relationships with loved ones. And before seriously working on the elaboration of requests for self-realization, we first have to clear away the rubble of these piles of negative feelings and limiting conclusions. All roads lead to Rome... that is, to childhood and relationships with parents. For, the root of all problems is deeply buried in our childhood, no matter how much we would like to avoid repeated pain that is provoked memories or the need to face the truth. And until we see and are not aware of this root, it will produce weeds and poison our body, mind and soul, not giving us the opportunity to breathe deeply and open to the possibilities of realizing ourselves the way we dream. What is an unfinished emotional relationship with parents? These are unfulfilled children's needs - for love, support, understanding, affection, attention, care - which the child did not receive at all or received less from his parents. Real children's stories from the practice of working with clients. For example, the mother worked very hard, the child could not wait in the evening, when will mommy come... And mom comes tired and tormented and unable to give the baby as much attention as he expects... And the child has anxiety that mom is feeling bad, fear that mom will get sick, die, and he will be left alone, that mom , it means she doesn’t love him, that he bothers her, and so on... The child’s consciousness begins to draw pictures, one more terrible than the other. This is how fear of loss, fear of loneliness, fear of the future arises... And if we take more acute emotional situations, when parents gave or took the child to grandparents for a long time, or dad or mom suffered from alcohol addiction and behaved inappropriately, rudely, aggressively in this state in relation to the child and to each other, then children's fears twist into a very complex emotional tangle of helplessness, worthlessness, uselessness, a hostile or insecure attitude towards the world... The human psyche is designed in such a way that an unrealized urgent need ALWAYS requires satisfaction. With physiological needs, everything is quite simple: an adult can feed himself, dress himself, put on shoes, can sleep when he is tired, and so on. With the needs for love, recognition and respect, things are a little more complicated. If a child in childhood gets used to being offended, feeling guilty, being afraid of a sharp shout, painfully experiencing indifference or being ignored, then such reactions become fixed as the only possible models of behavior in communication situations and work automatically in relationships not only with parents, but also with others. people already in adulthood. In psychology, this is called the mechanisms of transference and projection. Transference (transfer) is a spontaneous attitude of a person to a person, which is characterized.