What could be the secondary benefits? illness is something bad and this bad thing must be eradicated. A person comes with a complaint: “I have this garbage. She makes me feel bad. Remove this garbage, and the sooner the better,” gets a quick way to get rid of it and goes on his way. There are a lot of ways to eradicate the disease: medical, folk, chemical, esoteric, etc. However, the disease is a solution to the current situation in life and the fight against illness is not the best strategy. The concept of secondary benefits is what you can think about if a person, despite trying, cannot get out of the disease. What illnesses give: 1. People's attention is something that is missing in normal, healthy life.2. Abdicate responsibility when there is an obligation.3. The power and right to command and demand.4. Avoidance of intimacy.5. Filling life with meaning.6. The desire to win through illness.7. Uniqueness.8. Pride in yourself.9. Chosenness.10. Martyrdom, holiness.11. I am sick instead of you (deliverer).12. I'm rooting for you (persecution).13.I follow your examples.14. I am anxious to be accepted into the community. Belonging to...16. Love for...17. Avoiding emotional pain.15. Keeping the family intact.16. Keeping mom near you (parents).17. I am like You (we are similar, accept me!)18. I'm not like you.19. Rest.20. I don't want to do this work.21. Revenge (let you be ashamed that I am sick).22. Guilt and shame (self-punishment)23. I have the right to myself and my desires only when I am sick.24. Complete freedom from...25. Protection from mental trauma (somatization)26. Protection from the world (isolation).27. Rightness (illness as an argument).28. Spirituality, connection with fate.29. Illness as a motivator for development.30. Exploring your limits.31. Connection with yourself through illness.32. Access to personal time or personal space (isolator).33. Avoidance of emptiness.34. I am sensitive to...35. Illness to feel alive.36. Fear of change.37. Maintain an established picture of the world.38. Fear of a miracle.39. Assertion of your right.40. Behind the achieved goal there is emptiness, so illness prevents you from achieving the goal. “If you find a solution for secondary benefit, then the body heals itself” (Dr. Hamer) What holds the benefit? What is behind the secondary benefit? You especially need to pay attention to the desire of the psychologist to heal the person. The very desire to heal creates a charge. If we want to get well or achieve a goal, then we do not accept the disease. Okay, if that's what the client wants. Why does a psychologist want this? When a psychologist wants a client to recover, he excludes the patient, like a disease. There is always a part of a person that wants healing. And there is a part that does not want this healing. A psychologist who wants to heal unwittingly excludes part of the client. And this conflict of interest holds the disease back even more. The psychologist must see both parts and show them to the client. Showing does not mean pointing your nose in, “You have a secondary benefit, ah-ah-ah!” We must admit that we don’t know everything. We must understand that knowing the client has limits. And it is very important to recognize a person’s right to illness. Illness is a way to manifest itself in this world, as a way to adapt to the conditions in which a person lives. Some diseases give a person so much that it would be arrogant to think that we can give a person freedom in another way. Illness is the choice of the Soul. And with the help of a symptom we can get to something important. If we realize, for example, that an illness gives a well-deserved rest, because the person’s program says: “Rest, idleness is bad,” then you might think that a person is not able to rest in any other way. And the first stage is the development of consciousness. This is just the first stage. And if you limit yourself to explaining to a person how to relax, his illness, having receded, will still return in another area of life. Since behind any secondary benefit there is another benefit. The stages of work are a whole.