Many people are looking for a love relationship so that their partner will make them happy. They think that thanks to their partner, their life will have meaning, peace, and ease, that he or she will relieve them of the pain and suffering of loneliness and abandonment, that they will make them feel special and loved, that their partner will accept them as they are with all their shortcomings. There is an opinion that this is impossible, that love cannot heal personal traumas, correct personal shortcomings. Is this so? Do love relationships help in getting rid of shortcomings? I think that love relationships, healing mental trauma and getting rid of shortcomings can be combined. If you polish your personality to a crystal shine, when will the time come to live in partnership, love and intimacy? Of course, you shouldn’t shift all the work to your partner, but your partner can help in many ways. Let's figure out what and how. For example. Each of you knows how often during the day you have to suppress your feelings. Feelings of dissatisfaction, anger, gloating, irritation are the most common among them. But you probably also suppress good feelings, fearing the condemnation of others. Who, if not your partner, can you tell about overly demanding clients, a boss who is hot-tempered for no reason, critical colleagues, and so on? Who can you finally brag about your successes and achievements to? Who to gossip with, who to complain to? In other words, to whom, if not your partner, in a safe environment can you show those traits of your character that you usually hide from strangers? What are people really doing when they do this? Of course, they are looking for support, but also, by telling, they help themselves process the day's events and look at them from the outside, rethinking them. And when you do this, your psycho-emotional state improves, tension subsides. So you have solved some of your problems with the help of your partner. At the same time, you not only feel better from the support you received, you also sorted out the past day in your head, began to feel better about yourself, your self-esteem and ability to accept yourself have grown, you have drawn important conclusions for yourself. Partner as an assistantAnother one of types of assistance that can be received from a direct training partner. From a courageous and confident partner you can learn courage and confidence, from a delicate partner modesty and the ability to get along with people. If you fail to learn, you can always redistribute responsibilities in a couple so that the most valuable qualities of each partner are used in suitable situations. I’m sure each of you has examples of this kind of cooperation instead of conflict in a couple. Being in a relationship is a way to expand your own horizons, enrich your worldview, your ways of interacting with the world with new discoveries. Why conflict as a couple because of different views on life and differences in character, if instead of this you can help each other grow? Inevitably, problems will arise when two worlds meet. Two different worlds will not always find common ground immediately. But this does not mean that the focus should be kept on disagreements; it can be shifted to what the partners bring to each other. But disagreements should not be ignored, but returned to them from time to time in order to ultimately find a way to integrate disagreements into a more holistic common perception and resolve conflicts that arise on this basis in a couple. Perhaps you will come to a compromise, perhaps you will find a new creative unique solution, and isn’t it in order to create something new that people are looking for a mate? If you are interested in the topic, please thank and subscribe, to be continued. Previous articles on the topic here: Conflicts in couples. Let's start with the reasons. Conflict in a couple as a way to get closer. Sign up for a consultation: https://www.b17.ru/laloba/#consultation