Who are you to talk like that...?Childhood is filled with various stages of the formation of one’s own self. During this period, the child goes through several stages of forming personal boundaries and opinions about himself, the world, and people. This is how deep-seated beliefs are formed, which significantly influence a person’s perception of situations that invariably arise. How successful a person is in life, in marriage, career, friendship depends on attitudes. A parent, being an important, significant person, can form both positive and negative attitudes. Each phrase or situation gives the child its own message. Let's consider one of these phrases: “Who are you to reason like that...?” At three years of age, during the ongoing age crisis, the child forms the boundaries of his Self and expressing his opinion, albeit in a very naive childish form, is very important. Consequently, by stopping the child with the phrase “who are you to talk like that,” the parent blocks the formation of his boundaries and the separation process is inhibited. At seven years old, when preschool age is completed and school begins, the child’s social circle expands, new school acquaintances appear, the first teacher, the first experience of self-expression in society. A new type of responsibility appears - lessons. And, of course, the child acquires new experiences, new understandings, and knowledge. At this stage, the child may express a new point of view that differs from the opinion of the parents. A child’s new position, a new opinion may sound harsh to parents, which forces them to say the phrase “who are you to reason like that.” At this moment, the parent’s response sounds offensive to the child and forces him to begin to hide his real thoughts from his parents. The teenage period, starting at the age of 10, is itself ambiguous and is not easy for both the parents and the teenager himself. Criticism reflected by the phrase “who are you to talk like that” hits a teenager’s self-esteem quite harshly and demotivates him to get closer to his parents. At the same time, parents begin to notice “rudeness” on the part of the teenager, which actually becomes his protective tool. So, “who are you to talk like that” is a short phrase, but a very meaningful phrase, the content of which is critical for a child of any age, it can hurt him, alienate from the parent, reduce self-perception, self-esteem.