«I love myself, what next? to me not the way I would like... Yeah, a marker beacon. How is it said? Obviously, “I’m not her first”: the client is experienced, savvy... - Yes, I’ve studied many techniques, I know psychology well, that’s why I came to you - “don’t treat yourself,” the same? - And what is your request? - Loneliness. I know what you will say - “love yourself”, first of all... So, I love myself, I know, I pamper, I support. But, for some reason, the rest are in no hurry to “catch up”... I, of course, feel good with myself, I can easily endure this loneliness, but, you know... - And how do you love yourself? - I accept myself for who I am, I understand, that I am the only one at home, and no one in the world will be closer and dearer to me. I don’t scold myself, I understand that at the moment I am doing the best thing. Yes, one more thing: I listen carefully to my needs, I know what I want and I strive for it. - And how do you strive? - I like to lie, wrapped in a blanket, look out the window, fantasize... I love to read, cook deliciously, make the world around me beautiful. -?.... - I decorated my one-room apartment with beautiful paintings, reproductions, placed “motivators” everywhere so that everywhere I looked there would be a picture of how “charming and attractive” I am. - Does it work? - Yes, I love myself! What's next? I am completely charged with positive energy! - Oh, is there something that you don’t like about yourself? - No, I’ve already worked through all this! ….. What is “man”? This, no matter how trite it sounds, is a whole world. Anything can happen in this world - good and bad, there can be sun and sea; rain, hail and earthquake. It happens that you feel warm and comfortable in your swamp, and you need to pull yourself out of the quagmire by your hair. And this is painful. Moving forward is not only acceptance and support, it is also frustration, pardon the expression. The world around and the world inside have flexible, pliable boundaries. Perhaps, in order to “love yourself,” you need to love the world around you, love life? “The mother seduces the child into life,” said one of the classics of psychology. Perhaps the role of a specialist is precisely this - to accept completely, to show that there are safe places and people in life, to “seduce into life” and to give the opportunity and desire to LOVE NOT YOURSELF - the world around you, so different and so attractive? , grabbing yourself by the hair, pull yourself beyond the boundaries of a comfortable swamp, which, by mistake, some call “self-love”... Larisa Tishanskaya, Oleg Smagin.