« Do I need to see a psychologist? It’s much easier to cry on the shoulders of relatives or friends than to turn to a specialist for help. This has always been a big mystery to me. It’s strange why, when our, say, refrigerator breaks down, we turn to a professional (unless, of course, we have special education ), but we do it with ease when repairing the soul of a neighbor or friend? It’s amazing, is a refrigerator really more complex than the human soul!? In addition, the refrigerator can be replaced, but this is unlikely to happen with the soul. The soul is the most precious thing we have, so help can only be provided to it by a qualified person and under the supervision of a professional. Each problem has its own emotional overtones. By adequately responding to the problem, we can maintain a balanced state of mind. In addition, any person is faced with situations that occur regularly in his life. Why is this happening? Sometimes, in the hustle and bustle of everyday affairs, a modern person does not find time to think about it. And questions pile up, situations repeat themselves again and again... It won’t work for a long time to turn a blind eye to problems, no matter how much you want to do so... Problems need to be solved! Running from them is pointless, just like running from yourself. Life will return them, only in a more complex form. We should also forget that close people, unlike a psychologist, perceive the situation personally and emotionally, and therefore cannot be objective. In addition, the psychologist knows how to guide you in making the right decision, and the money paid for the appointment will not allow you to devalue the information received. Fortunately, more and more people are seeking help, realizing the value of psychological consultation. Contrary to the popular belief that only weak and pathetic people (or generally sick people) go to a psychologist. My opinion is completely opposite. Firstly, you need to have enough courage to talk frankly with a specialist, talk about your difficulties, and even more so, in order to change something in yourself and your life. Secondly, a psychologist is not a fortune teller , or a sorcerer, he will not give you specific advice (if the first professional, of course!). In a conversation with a psychologist, first of all, you gain knowledge, learn to better understand yourself, and work on yourself. A psychologist will not undertake to solve problems for you or give ready-made solutions, that is, you will still have to do everything yourself! The help of a psychologist is necessary if: • You have the feeling that you are walking in a vicious circle. You have tried all possible methods and cannot solve the problem, and the situation is only getting worse.• You have experienced a loss (the death of a loved one, divorce, physical or mental abuse, etc.) In this case, time does not heal, and if it does, then not of good quality.• You have a need for change, but you don’t know where to start• You are haunted by a feeling of anxiety, for no apparent reason. You have been feeling bad for a long time: melancholy, sadness, poor sleep, etc. What a psychologist cannot help you with: • If you need specific advice on “how” and “what” to do. A psychologist is an outside observer, not a puppet master...• In taking responsibility for your actions and life.• In instant healing, without effort and problems.• In correcting your loved ones and improving the world around you, etc. PS Everyone should mind their own business! Especially if he does it well...Maria Seraya, May 2, 2010.