From Supervision... The therapist blocks the process of working on the boundary of contact with his own anxiety. Pre-contact can continue and continue... Until the meeting comes. How can she cope if the loss of a loved one is so traumatic, and the experience of grief never happened and lies as a heavy, forgotten burden... Nastya doesn’t remember well what happened to her then, several years have passed, but she still hasn’t she cried for her mother, who has been dead for 6 years...Now she longs to understand herself, she is interested in understanding herself more, she talks about it with enthusiasm, emotion, even vainly. And sometimes it hits her and she “sinks to the bottom,” as if into a swamp from which it’s scary not to get out... She is afraid of such changes in her emotional state, but it seems that for some reason she herself causes it, then it takes over and begins to possess her. .. - this is very scary.. For a couple of sessions now, the therapist has been thinking about how to approach an important topic, waits, and thinks again: that only 3 meetings have passed, that it’s still early, there is not enough trust and it would be good to create a strong working alliance for working with experiences of loss and that the client has pressing topics - divorce, moving... So that’s how it is, but our therapist begins to freeze off and disappear little by little next to the client, and then at the supervision meeting:... the therapist really doesn’t like it the fact that he was “disturbed and taken out of the house! Barbarians! They examine him and poke the snail with a stick!” - Oh, our therapist was angry during the supervision!... And, lo and behold, two days passed. Therapy....And nothing special happened at the session, except that the evil energy of the therapist generated the energy of life, thanks to which the therapist realized and presented himself as alive in contact, shared his assumptions and thoughts about anxiety addressed to the topic of death, about , that between him and the client, about his desire to be careful in handling, not to rush... - and some alienation, tension in contact, was replaced by the joy of meeting, the lively energy of the relationship between two people, spontaneity and interest appeared. Life has manifested itself, through excitement, embarrassment, questions and resources, move on…