Sometimes we believe so much in parental messages that we forget that we don’t have to believe in them. There are only 12 of them: Don’t think Don’t live Don’t be close Don’t be successful Don’t be a leader Don’t do Don’t feel feel good, etc. And we can get stuck in them for the rest of our lives. This is how the family system develops, what parents refuse to look at, what they do not want to face within themselves - pain, power, sacrifice. It becomes a task for us – their children. And we either solve it, or exclude the very possibility of a solution - we stay where we are. But group work is awesome because you can really make progress in it and get a bunch of discoveries - insights about your inner child, about your behavior strategies, about where to move next. Gain the skill of recognizing messages - manipulations not only with parents, but also with husbands, at work, in everyday life. Get a new tool - knowledge and techniques to change the quality of your life. To become independent, confident and stable, to give yourself what you have been waiting uselessly for decades from your parents, draining the strength and time of your life. What was important to me? You cannot go through pain alone. It hurts for so long and severely that part of the soul simply goes numb and loses contact with another part of the soul - healthy, strong, energetic. You can only lead into pain and show how to heal yourself. This cannot be taught. This cannot be done for another. A person learns to heal himself, but with support and help from another family system, in which it hurts no less strongly, but in a different place. You give me - I give you, and this is an exchange. New experiences come into the family system. Because where there was use and manipulation, we only heard about the exchange from TV, and only from strictly scientific programs that were on in the background while the borscht was being prepared. This is healing. Through exchange, through new knowledge and new experience. It may hurt again, because the truth is, it’s often not sweet molasses, but a pill that sticks once, but forever. Be on the move, leaving behind red flags, or sit in a fantasy world, allowing others to manage their lives. True, a cool choice?