In everyday life we ​​come across different people. Some we like, some not so much, some that evoke negative emotions in us, different feelings from hostility to disgust, from love to hatred. If you think about it, we only have feelings for the person we care about. It follows from this that a random stranger passing on the street can become a person who provokes such a strong and violent reaction, although we see him for the first and last time? The first thing we need to understand is what kind of feeling that has appeared in us and where it comes from , why anger or despair appeared in connection with this person, and most importantly, understand what in this person, what element or character trait made you choose her... There is one example in psychoanalytic practice, a woman was angry by the fact that courtesans were available and The most important thing was to enjoy it. During the therapy, it turned out that this woman, deep in the subconscious, did not allow herself to be relaxed, but at the same time passionately wanted to relax in relationships with men, then the therapy brought her to the traumatic experience of the past... Thus, this case shows us that deeply hidden desires that are prohibited can feed our feelings and emotions. There are many such examples. Some people get annoyed when other people behave inappropriately (spontaneous behavior, unbridled behavior, etc.). This is where projection comes into play. One of the functions of projection is that internal desired thoughts are prohibited and the conscious part of the psyche may ignore them, but at the same time, when a person sees in another, what he himself is prohibited begins to experience something. Consciously, he may not even understand what is happening to him or understand it distortedly. Another example of our feelings that we do not understand is that we ignore our own qualities and idealize the qualities of other people. For example, a young man is interested in sports, but does not engage in it, and at work his colleague constantly talks about how cool he was in the gym. The young man may begin to get angry or upset with him, or even worse, jealous of his colleague. At the same time, he himself does not go to sports, but sits in passivity. The question is not in the colleague, but in the young man himself, why does he sit still and begin to get angry without noticing it? In this case, we will also turn to the topic of prohibitions, since it is possible that this person forbids himself to play sports, since this will lead to the satisfaction of desire, but here’s the thing: he is not used to having his desires satisfied. As a child, he was probably told that he couldn’t do many things and was forced to go to music school, as his mother wanted, thereby ignoring the needs of the little boy. He grew up with the understanding that his feelings were not heard and he himself stopped hearing them, this led to the fact that he now envies and does not act. The multifaceted, multidimensional psyche and its defenses paint many bizarre episodes in our lives. If we were more careful, we would notice that our thoughts are mostly a product of unconscious experiences. And can we completely rely on our adult part, if it does not always see the world from different angles? In conclusion, I would like to add that the unconscious is fraught with extraordinary possibilities, but in order to get to them you need to figure out what is reality and what is my feelings, my real feelings???