Thank you, my readers! You always inspire me to write something new. My latest topic, “The Life of Comfortable People in Society,” turned out to be lively and emotionally charged. Today my post will not be about how difficult the life of comfortable people is and what difficulties they face. I want to write about how to be comfortable for yourself, about what can help make your life the way you like. Give up the idea of ​​being good to everyone. All people on this earth are different, everyone has their own tastes and morals. Some people like cherries, while others prefer sweet figs. And cherry lovers will never be able to prove to those in love with figs that their cherries are the most wonderful in the world. It's pretty much the same with people. But sometimes we stubbornly try to be both a “cherry” and a “fig” at the same time. We try to please other people in order to remain good for ourselves, to maintain this value through other people. Then we focus on other people. And what you like to be, what you want to be - you forget about it. You do not strive to be for yourself, but you are for others. And it's not fair to you. Then all these phrases about a happy life for yourself lose their meaning when you don’t have yourself at all. Don’t strive to be a “superhero” who helps everyone. Oh yes, this is a big problem with convenient people. They strive to help everyone who, in their opinion, needs help. Sometimes this help to the “suffering” is not requested. And sometimes such a desire becomes an excellent hook for manipulators. Handing out help left and right, comfortable people often pursue their own personal goal (by the way, it is not always realized). They expect that someday, if they need help or attention or communication, they will certainly be given it, they will have to give it. A certain dividend for the assistance provided. But just don’t think that convenient people are so insidious or two-faced. It’s just that inside they are sure that they will never be given anything for nothing. They consider themselves so unworthy that they try to earn bits of love and attention with great effort. To stop being “superheroes”, it is important to recognize your dignity and worth. Start making time for yourself. This is very difficult for convenient people to do, because their time is always occupied by someone. Sometimes they do not find the opportunity to satisfy their basic needs due to the fact that they will let someone down, they will not have time to do something. Pushing themselves is a common thing for them. Again, there is an expectation that someone else will notice and pay attention. But others treat us the same way we treat ourselves. They also push it back. Here comes confusion and misunderstanding. The expectation is unreasonable. The effort is wasted. So is the game worth the candle? Is it worth doing something to the detriment of yourself when you can take care of yourself without expecting this from others. Say “no” if you don’t want something. An important skill is to learn to refuse others if it makes you uncomfortable. By saying “yes,” to the detriment of ourselves, we doom ourselves to dissatisfaction, dissatisfaction and wasting personal resources. Sometimes it seems to us that if we refuse, we will let the person down and he will stop communicating and change his attitude towards us. However, it is worth checking whether this is really so? Perhaps this is just a fantasy, unsubstantiated. Start asserting your boundaries. Usually other people can freely and “without knocking” invade the territory of convenient people. There is no space of your own, there is no opportunity to retire and relax, there is no right to your opinion and the opportunity to express yourself the way you want. But in fact, why are they not there? Because they are busy with someone else? Because it’s unusual to protect what’s yours? Or maybe you don’t even know that it’s yours! It’s important to realize and identify for yourself personally what you have, where are your boundaries? When you do this, you’ll be able to protect them and defend. There are probably many other points and important points that will be useful to you on your way from “convenient for others” to “convenient for yourself,” but these seemed to me the most significant. I wish everyone who stood on this!