From the author: psychotherapist, sexologist, TV program expert, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, educational psychologist, existential neuroprogramming specialist, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach. I will begin my article by quoting an aphorism from an unknown author: “Quarrels often happen without reasons, but rarely without consequences.” And then the story of my recent work. A girl came to me. The problem was the periodic scandals with her common-law husband. They have been in a relationship for a short time, but recently it has started to deteriorate. Working on a technique for resolving relationships for which one family member is enough, we came to recent history. But now a few words about the fact that relationships are a couple’s dance, and if one half is to blame, then the other half usually also behaved somehow not quite right if a scandal arose and developed. Therefore, we began to work with the girl’s internal state, making positive changes, changing irritability, anger, to something more positive - calmness, adequacy and even adulthood. Now a few words about what happened. Mutual accusations and jealousy resulted. The client recalled that there was blood and broken glass (he hit the glass coffee table hard and it broke). Then she remembered the scream of her common-law husband, and then she lost consciousness. But why do you think... Not at all from the sight of blood, but because before that she drank a pack of sedative pills, her husband managed to drag her into the bath, under cold water, and she lost consciousness. They didn’t call a doctor, but then she somehow came to her senses. In general, everything ended normally, but there was a certain aftertaste from what happened. This is what I had to work with as an experienced psychotherapist. We stepped into that situation by changing the client’s perception: adding the necessary resources and qualities to both herself and her husband. He lacked calmness and the girl lacked wisdom. After this, she came to the understanding that it was not worth playing such games, and that she “got off easy.” In general, the problem has been resolved, and in the near future the situation will be perceived more neutrally.