What is the 3-year crisis? And where does it come from? During the first three years of life, the child changes as much as at any subsequent stage. By the age of 3, he has more or less formed his character, his individual attitude to the world, he learns to act in human ways, he develops a certain attitude towards himself. At the age of 3 years, a child begins to separate himself, his personality from close adults, his own “I” is formed, his own opinion, desires and interests, which marks the onset of a “crisis”. First of all, I would like to note that this is a crisis necessary for development. One way or another, all children go through it. Crises help us move to a new stage of development, and how a child moves to it largely depends on the parents. The 3-year-old crisis is an important stage in the development of a child’s mental development. The first signs of a crisis can often be noticed as early as 1.5 years, and its peak occurs at the age of about three years (2.5-3.5 years). Main manifestations: Negativism. The child unquestioningly stops fulfilling the requests of adults, answering no to everything. It differs from disobedience in that with negativism, the child even refuses what he himself wants. The main goal is to make it clear to adults that he has his own point of view, and those around him must take it into account. Increased independence. The child strives to do everything like an adult, refuses help. Stubbornness, protest. The reaction of a child when he insists on something not because he really wants it, but because he demanded it. Protest against all previously existing rules and norms. Acute reactions to criticism. At this age, a situation of success is important for a child, so that adults value him and communicate with him as equals. If this does not happen, the child begins to fantasize (parents evaluate it as a lie), become offended and angry. Bad advice or what not to do! * Try to insist on your own, you’re an adult, you’re right! * Break the child’s stubbornness, he shouldn’t tell you what to do. * Let the child understand that his opinion means nothing. * Don’t let the child show independence, but only don’t demand this later! Useful tips for parents on how to behave with a little “adult” * Try to develop the right line of behavior with the child, you are an adult, you are smarter, become more flexible in educational activities, expand the rights and responsibilities of the child, give him independence in within reasonable limits, so that the child enjoys it. * Keep in mind that the child not only disagrees with you, but probes your character, explores what is “possible” and what is “not allowed.” Therefore, if you are sure that some of his requests are unacceptable or unsafe, you must say a firm “no.”* Encourage children’s initiative and independence. Let the baby himself, “even if it’s crooked, and long and wrong,” put on trousers or a dress, tie his shoelaces, or help. Plan your time in advance to avoid conflicts.* Praise your child wisely for his achievements, do not teach him easy victories, giving rise to inadequate self-esteem, which will lead to further avoidance of failures. It’s better to sit down together and figure out what worked and what didn’t, and offer your help. Also, do not forget to ask your child for help; the child can already complete some small tasks (hold something, or bring something).* Listen to the child, be patient, and give him the right to make mistakes. The child loves you very much and his biggest fear is that he will disappoint you and stop being the best for you.* If the child’s desires are not real, then a way out can be found in a role-playing game. For example, your child does not want to eat, although he is hungry. Don't beg him. Set the table and place a bear on a chair. Pretend that the bear has come to dinner and is asking the baby, like an adult, to try to see if the soup is too hot, and, if possible, to feed him. Baby how.