Even before my consulting practice, random men on trains, planes, and at parties saw in me good ears for talking about their sexual, as they called it, shameful perversions, and I listened with huge eyes. “And how to persuade a girl to let her on mine my friend fucked me in the eyes, and I will sit in her underwear?”, “Can you tell me if this women’s underwear will suit me”, “Are you wearing a bodysuit? Would you like to give me yours? and now, as a practicing specialist, I continue to encounter so-called fetishistic transvestism and a completely different attitude. Usually a man with similar preferences (dressing in women's clothing in order to obtain sexual arousal from imagining himself as a woman) suffers terribly and wants to tear this “out of himself.” humiliating horror” because it’s supposedly not normal (and such men are usually heterosexual!) I love the topic of normality and pathology, because it’s a big discussion field, but it still leads to the mention of the ICD. Yes, in Russia ICD-10 (the international classification of diseases adopted in 1990) is still in force and in the list of disorders of sexual preferences you can see fetishistic transvestism, and you can also find the supposedly proven effectiveness of using aversion therapy in the case of this diagnosis in order to make an already nightmare suffering person and eradicate a terrible, unimaginable illness, developing disgust for it. I think this damn topic lies somewhere in the cauldron with punitive psychiatry and gynecology. We all have our own characteristics. And what's the big deal if these features don't cause harm to other people? These are our jokes/cockroaches/even punchlines, they are only about us and our partner. So ICD-11, according to this logic, does not include this preference in the list of deviations. And although our country is not officially guided by it, I completely agree that this is not a deviation and that it is necessary to work with the client, first of all, on accepting their peculiarities, and not develop an insane strategy to quickly cut off many years of life and cleanse themselves of this dirt . In fear and horror, it is impossible to adapt one’s characteristics to life, to adjust them in accordance with one’s values, and even to understand why this is happening, and also in multi-toned shame for the fact that this is supposedly outside of any norm. The norm is not an ossified social malaise. I remind you that you can make an appointment with me for a consultation by writing here @thvlhl in tg