All mental problems begin in the family. It is there that the first neural connections, attachments, behavioral and communication skills, warmth and peace or aggression and rejection, positive or negative, healthy or destructive relationships are formed. 1. Suggestions from parents: “Everyone behaves as they want, but you have to be patient, they need it, everything is as they want.” And so your focus of attention is deformed, your needs are erased, they are not important, they are chronically not satisfied, and you slide into severe depression and deficits. These are the concepts of parents, such socialization, life for appearances. 2. They reject you, offend you, and do bad things to you, but you continue to forgive and communicate. It was instilled in you that I don’t want to communicate through without choosing. Your opinion was not taken into account. 3. Others are trespassing on your territory, but you are embarrassed to not let them in or kick them out. They trample around your space, they don’t take you into account, they become insolent and openly use you. After all, you don't fight back. Your dissatisfaction is perceived as conflict. And this is normal, healthy anger at discomfort. 4. Instills dominance-submission relationships. Elders decide everything, they are the owners of resources, masters, saints, stewards of your life, they know better, they have lived their lives, they have rights, be silent and obey, as you may not want. This is patriarchy, domostroy, subordination and slavery. 5. You are not given moral support. They force you to create an appearance, suppress negativity within yourself, and forbid you to seek help. And they also drain and hang their own. The essence of family is to provide support, approval to loved ones, help in solving incomprehensible life problems, and communication. And dysfunctional parents consider themselves more important and so that the children’s negativity does not stick to them, they brush them off, suppress feelings, force them to freeze, freeze, push fears and emotions back. Isolate. 6. Forbidden, says no and refuses. Your “I don’t want” is being exaggerated as a catastrophically wrong act, and for which you need to punish and break off. Sacrifice begins with the family hierarchy, denial of oneself, not meeting one’s needs, disunity, with you owe, but no one will, with you at random, and you only do well, with obsequiousness and “compliance,” with serving parents, relatives, husband, from routine, domestic violence and rudeness, poking with age, lack of training, from the ban on self-defense and anger, from blurring and breaking boundaries by parents, from gaslighting and extinguishing, from beatings and torture, from the ban on asking for help, from the suggestion not to be yourself , live according to make-believe and don’t take care of your life. As a result, a person does not understand who he is, how to live his life, how to be himself and take care of himself. He lives like a herd creature, with and with someone. Has only what was said or given, very dependent. He is raised as a slave or servant for his parents in his old age. His life is a cocoon, a morogh, his parents hang on him like weights, he has nothing of his own. Such a person is unresourceful. After all, you can come out of sacrifice, suffering, masochism, niceness, servility and family slavery, retrain your brain, reprogram it, set goals for personal growth, arrange your life according to your own rules, find like-minded partners, grow your self-esteem, work out yourself, learn to be happy. You can make an appointment via WhatsApp +375297934283