The effect of March 8th, when men rushed like mad for flowers, gifts, and tried to please their ladies in everything, is gradually subsiding. The women I talked to told me how their husbands cooked, set the table, washed the dishes, and spoiled them in every possible way. This day seems to be magical, making men men and women women. This seems to be good, but I have some thoughts about this holiday that I want to share with you. As a female psychologist, I often encounter requests from clients to become feminine. The girls who come to me talk with enviable regularity about their desire to learn to love and value themselves, to build relationships with a man so that he values ​​them, carries them in his arms, takes care of them, accomplishes feats, etc. In my opinion, these are completely normal desires. In general, I really respect men who behave this way towards their woman. However, there is one BUT! For this, a woman must be exactly a woman, and not a draft horse that pulls everyone and everything. But let’s return to the holiday of March 8. What usually happens on this day in the minds of women? Surely, most of us think that it is on this day that men should do household chores and help women. You know, even I caught myself thinking about this, which amused me very much, because this is just an ordinary day, but it is so deeply ingrained in our minds that such thoughts appear out of nowhere. Then I caught the following thought - after all, I can ASK my husband to help me any day. I can ASK him to give me a massage any day. I can ASK you to take care of me any day. It was the word “ask” that became the key word for me. Still, when it comes to the eighth of March, there are more and more obligations, both for men and women. I know some ladies who literally force themselves to be women on this day. And I also know how men are forced to please the fair sex. And it’s as if this is not a holiday at all, but some kind of day of terrible mutual obligations. By the way, what do you think of the idea that you can ask a man? I like to ask this question to women in consultations and women's groups. You know, very often there are a lot of objections, starting with the fact that he can refuse, ending with - Why should I ask? Girls, again this harmful word “should”. Does it help you build harmonious relationships with another person and yourself? Can the word “should” inspire a man to do great things? Will you begin to treat yourself and others with love and care under the influence of the word “should”? I would be interested in hearing your opinions on this topic. What thoughts does the holiday of March 8 evoke in you? This all resonates with me very much, I want more and more women to start living guided by the principles of self-love, to allow themselves to be feminine on any day, to allow themselves to ask their men, to allow them to help and care. This is why I work, conduct consultations and women's groups. After all, if a woman is happy, everyone is happy.