To answer this question more clearly, I suggest researching this topic: what is the distance in your relationship? By the word distance we assume the degree of closeness with another person. A space where you can express yourself openly and freely. This is also a zone that shows how much you can let another person in in a relationship with you and what freedom they will have in communicating with you. In simple words, this is the degree of what is acceptable in your relationship. What is allowed in your interaction and what is not. For example, calling at 12 at night: is it possible or not? giving a child sweets/buying a gift without asking you: is it permissible or not? arriving without warning: is it normal or impossible? asking for a loan: natural or taboo? Being interested in problems/everyday situations/intimate moments: is it acceptable or unacceptable? Etc. First, I suggest you look at the distance. What is it: short or long? The closer/caring the relationship, the shorter the distance usually is. How do you like this distance? Do you feel comfortable? Do you allow yourself to be taken care of? Can you care for someone else? Or are you more accustomed to keeping your distance? What is this degree? *But it is important to remember one point that there is also personal distance, personal space, this is the degree of what is permissible, which applies to absolutely everyone. For example: you can’t clean my desk and rearrange my documents, eat from my plate without asking, etc. That is, a border that cannot be crossed. Is this being followed? Does a short distance mean that a personal boundary can be violated or does it imply intimacy without invading the intimate zone? What is the distance of a person in a relationship with you: is it approximately the same or shorter/longer? Are your contributions to communication equal? What do I mean?! For example, if they can call you at 12 at night, can you do the same. If you are asked to change the subject, can you also say stop in an unpleasant conversation? If the relationship is caring, then more often the distance is approximately the same, but with control, your distance may be shorter, while the other’s is noticeably longer. For example, they ask you about everything and want to be aware of all events and their details. At the same time, they do not allow you to be interested in them; they are reluctant to tell you about themselves. Or they express a point of view on any situation, advise, offer solutions, but your opinion is not taken into account; at best, they listen to you. Or is your distance longer: they dump everything on the table for you, and you stay away? With the existing distance, do you feel a resource in your interaction with a person or do you feel devastated? In close and caring relationships, a person is more likely to feel fulfilled, but with control, he feels a lack of energy and strength. If you feel full, does the person next to you feel energized too? With such a distance, do you feel like an adult, capable person who can rely on himself: make decisions, make choices without a painful feeling of doubt and need for support, or do you feel small, incapable next to an authoritative person? In a close and caring relationship, a person receives support and his supports become stronger. With control, a person each time feels greater uncertainty, instability and worthlessness. Does your relationship strengthen your positive view of yourself? If you feel strong, confident, does the person next to you feel valuable, capable? Now explore and...Notice if your relationship is more caring or controlling? If control, then from whose side? What is your distance: is it comfortable for you? What about the other? Do you notice his desire to get closer or further away? Do you want to change something in this regard? Maybe your personal space now requires your attention and revision of guidelines? The better you understand your boundaries (opportunities and limitations) and feel the space (distance) of contact with other people, the less nurturing/controlled your