From the author: I will briefly summarize here what I talked about at the seminar on January 23, 2014. A little information about aggression, but nevertheless I hope this will be useful for those who are simply interested in the topic. "Aggression. Childhood aggression - origins, features, how to react. Adult aggression - the same questions." Hello. The topic itself is very voluminous and incredibly confusing, so I want to start with the basic concepts that I rely on. Aggression is activity, energy aimed at changing the external world. Occurs when a need arises. Hunger, Cold, Anxiety, Desire, etc. If I don’t stop myself from manifesting myself, then when I feel the need, I always change something in the world around me. I'm gnawing on an apple, chopping wood, looking for a blanket to cover myself with, begging, forcing someone to do something, etc. That is, my activity is aimed at changing something and making me feel good. It is clear that activity-aggression itself is neither bad nor good, just a part of life. There are different forms of aggression. Dental and annihilation aggression. Dental aggression is precisely the aggression of satisfying a need directly (any need). Annihilation is an aggression of affect, destruction and occurs in two cases - either when the object of aggression is so frightening that it must be immediately destroyed, contact with it is impossible, or when, due to chronic dissatisfaction, aggression has accumulated so much that it spills over the edge into different sides. For example, I can throw out aggression at the wrong person, but slowly poison someone else with it. In any case, annihilation aggression is the result of collapsed, compressed aggression, when the real object is either inaccessible, or very scary, or aggression towards it is taboo. To satisfy dental aggression, I choose the form that is acceptable to me and for which I have enough internal energy. For example, I can go to work, earn money, then go to the store and buy myself the phone I want. Or ask to give me this phone. Or blackmail them into giving it to me. Or go, take a brick, knock out a store window at night and take the phone. It is not known which option requires more effort objectively, but one way or another the subject chooses the option for which he specifically has enough energy. A thief who has been stealing all his life will spend less energy on robbery. Than to get a job and earn money. I, in turn, would spend a lot of effort, money and nerves if I suddenly had to rob a store than if I made money on this very phone in the usual way. Those. The form of aggression is chosen not the one that is easier and more adequate, but the one that is more familiar and guarantees some kind of result based on my personal experience. In the teachings of Aikido, different forms of aggression are compared with different forms of geometric figures - circle, square, triangle. Annihilation aggression is the aggression of prohibition and frustration. When my reactions and feelings are faced with the impossibility of expressing them, I feel annoyed, irritated, the feelings inside me accumulate and after some time find at least some form for reacting internal tension. I can start hitting a table, a chair, my wife and children, or cutting myself, or grumbling constantly and for no reason, or tyrannizing others with sacrificial behavior (i.e., aggression will be the fact that I will behave in such a way that others will begin to blame themselves, shame for the way they treat me). There are different options, varying degrees of confusion. In the case of children, three sources of destructive behavior can be distinguished: 1. Feelings of fear, distrust of the world around us, threatening the child’s safety; 2. The child’s encounter with non-fulfillment of his desires, prohibitions on satisfying certain needs; 3. Defending your personality, territory, gaining independence and independence. For adults, the sources of destructive behavior are the same, with the only difference that children have less.