From the author: I know for sure that if a person is not confident in himself, it means that he does not want to have confidence. One of my clients, a timid and modest person by nature, went through the process of building internal confidence only when he became the head of a department of a large company. How to create self-confidence Task 1. You need to determine whether you really need confidence. I know for sure if a person is not confident in himself, it means he doesn't want to have confidence. One of my clients, a timid and modest person by nature, went through the process of developing internal confidence only when he became the head of a department of a large company. Draw a picture “I have no confidence” Figure 2 “I have confidence” Compare two pictures, what will give you confidence if the pictures are identical then perhaps you don’t need more confidence. Task 2. Create your own “Insecure Doll” Make a doll from paper, scraps, plasticine or other materials so that you like it. On a piece of paper, describe why the doll is insecure. Then describe what needs to be done to make the doll confident. Remake the doll into a more confident one. The process is long but very effective! Task 3. Test yourself 1. Can I say “No”. 2. Can I talk openly about feelings and demands.3. Can I make connections and start and end conversations.4. Can I express positive and negative feelings openly.5. Can I treat mistakes as tasks for the future? If you don’t have all the answers “yes,” then take the advice from task 4. Task 4. Draw on a piece of paper each of your reactions to the advice, but only one detail. As a result, you will receive a picture; this picture reflects the entire process of taking advice. Fixation on success Create a ritual of congratulating yourself on this success. The program is healthy pleasure, not suffering. It is better to be a winner than a victim. Forgive yourself for mistakes. Do not shift the blame onto others - this is a sign of powerlessness. Likewise, do not go too far, blaming only yourself for everything. Love yourself, body and soul. Success is confidence in easy communication. Adequately accept help, support and advice when you need it. Treat yourself well. Your self-esteem will never improve if you don't treat yourself well. Learn to listen without judgment and comparison, because these (judgment and comparison) are barriers in relationships. Know how to say “no.” We often agree too quickly to do what is asked of us, fearing disapproval or anger from other people, or considering ourselves “good” only if we gave in to please someone. Say no to please yourself, rather than agree to please others. Give up chatter, complaining, revenge, all the powerless desires that undermine your integrity and personal strength. Remember that you are imperfect - and that is ok. You are a person who can make mistakes and correct your mistakes. Recognize yourself for who you are - unique, original, humane. Live in the present, and you will get more satisfaction from life. A painting can be framed and hung in a visible place, even looking at such a painting can add confidence! Task 5. If something is not very clear, then you can always turn to a psychologist. It is always easier to go through the tunnel of uncertainty with a psychologist, he will explain to you all your reactions and patterns, and will help you get rid of the deeper causes of uncertainty. Good luck! Nazarevich Victoria