From the author: Most people want to be happy in love, meet a person who is in tune with the inner needs of the soul and create a family based on mutual feelings. Why are there so many unhappy couples, disappointments and dissatisfaction? Let's try to understand the reasons for what is happening with the help of knowledge of astrology and psychology, relying on practical experience and examples of advisory practice. The article “Possibilities of Compatibility Astrology: Finding Happiness and Love Really” was published on the website From the point of view of spiritual knowledge, in the flow of love, each of us can experience intimacy to the Creator. After all, love is the basic principle of the structure of this world. And the knowledge of love is one of the main tasks facing each of us, for which we come into this world to know. Thanks to love, the bright side of a person can be revealed, the best that is in him. So, in the name of love and their loved one, people are ready to overcome difficulties and obstacles, change and grow, create beautiful works, perform selfless acts, make dreams come true... Love is the most powerful means for the development of the human soul. The vibration of love “opens” the soul and a person begins to feel this world and what is happening in it, passing it through the heart. This perception of the world forms the basis of wisdom. A meeting of love is an important event in a person’s life and a powerful source for development. Because it is thanks to love and for the sake of our loved ones that we are ready to change, grow, do noble deeds, give in, step on the throat of our pride and selfishness, and due to this we become higher and purer, forgive pain, insults and even betrayal and, ultimately, thanks to unconditional love, one becomes better and wiser. And since love is the main source of development, it is given to every person. It is only important to wait and see it, and also to be able to save it and use it for good, developing and interacting with your partner. After all, our loved ones are our main Teachers. By making compromises with his heart, and tying the knot for reasons other than love, a person deprives himself first of all, as well as his partner. After all, everyone can meet not just a “suitable” candidate, but someone who would meet his ideal partner, making his heart rejoice from the possibility of daily communication and harmony of souls. It is known that people living in love remain young and healthy longer, and children born out of love are beautiful and have a more harmonious destiny. The secret of this magic is quite simple - the vibrations of love in which people live. These vibrations are reproduced thanks to personal attunement, which in the language of astrology is called harmonious compatibility or harmonious aspects between planets, symbolizing love, sexual harmony, personal consonance, emotional intimacy... Why do you need an analysis of the compatibility of natal charts or a synastry horoscope? In situations where it is difficult To determine whether it is love, when doubts or fears arise, it is very useful to use an analysis of the compatibility of natal charts and study the synastry horoscope. This will help not only to find out what the point of meeting with this person is, but also to understand the peculiarities of interaction, understand what attraction is based on and how to use it correctly. Because attraction and the presence of sympathy do not at all guarantee a joint marriage, much less a happy life together. Let me give you an example from my practice: a young and very attractive girl who has been living with a young man for more than 4 years came for a consultation; they are planning to marry, but somehow things don’t work out. Something happens all the time, because of which their marriage is postponed: either a serious problem in the family, and recently she has had problems in the field of gynecology, due to which pregnancy does not occur. Compatibility analysis showed that their interaction is tense, and aspects indicating sexualThere is no compatibility and love at all. The presence of children in this union is unlikely. But their meeting, of course, makes sense: they are connected by the tense aspect of the square between the Lunar Nodes and the connection of the South (Descending) node of the man with Venus and the Black Moon of the woman. It is the action of these aspects that creates attraction, which, due to lack of experience, young people mistake for love. A tense aspect between the Lunar nodes and the connection of Venus with the Spent Node indicates a tense karmic connection, i.e. the souls of these people have already met in past incarnations and have accumulated mutual grievances and claims. Because of this, they were given a new meeting - to untie the karmic knot tied between them in the past, and try to resolve the situation this time. Only with this aspect it is quite difficult to gain a positive experience, because the squares formed by the Lunar Nodes of the partners lead them away from the karmic task for which they came into this world. You can read about this in detail in the articles “Lunar nodes - indicators of the evolutionary Path” and “Karmic problems and ways to find harmony.” And since their interaction, and especially the union, distracts and leads away from karmic realization, problems and obstacles will occur in their lives , the purpose of which is to make you think about the reasons for what is happening and find an adequate solution. Synastry also suggests how to correctly use these relationships: the woman’s Sun forms a harmonious trine aspect with the man’s Mars and her personality activates him for actions, masculine manifestation, while the actions and actions of a man help reveal the woman's personality. This aspect is a good basis for friendly interaction and in this context, these relationships will be most adequate. Connection with the Black Moon - what is the danger? There is another point that creates the illusion of attraction and love - connection with the Black Moon, which directly activates sexual desire . But, as you know, the Black Moon is the dark side in a person, which is recommended to be consciously overcome without succumbing to its temptation. Since an alliance based on the Black Moon will give nothing but disappointment and claims. And in this case, for a woman, these relationships act as a “temptation” that she needs to resist. But it will only take years of marriage to come to this conclusion. And if, by that time, children appear, people may not have enough courage and strength to change their lives. The girl was upset when she learned the peculiarities of their relationship and said that everything was already very far gone and there was no turning back. Such a reaction is a manifestation of stereotypes and misconceptions about responsibility, a sense of duty and a manifestation of a defensive reaction and fear of change. After all, plans and hopes diverge from the image of the future, hopes and illusions (in which the action of the Black Moon is also manifested). Despite the disappointment that the information received is at odds with the woman's hopes and desires, it can actually help her be a happier person. Everything depends on the wisdom of the person himself and his choice. Happiness is our choice. The main responsibility of a person is to correctly manage the life given to him and his duty, first of all, to himself is to be happy. We cannot make someone happy because we do not know the true feelings, motives and desires of another person. But we are able to understand and sort out our true feelings and motives, and internal honesty with ourselves is also our duty. Acting out of a false sense of duty (how can I “betray my partner”), we sacrifice ourselves and subsequently make many claims to our partner, believing that since we sacrificed something, then he owes us... And this is the cause of many problems that we we create it ourselves. Having received a negative forecast, you should not take hasty and radical actions. It is useful to think and observe the manifestations that were described during the consultation. Everyone has the opportunity to verify the truth of conclusionsan astrologer in the course of his life, but the price that will have to be paid can be very expensive - the collapse of life, illness, dissatisfaction. In such a situation, it is useful to listen to yourself and observe the relationship, your well-being and state after intimacy. After all, coming to an astrologer is one of the signals that gives a person space. In this situation, it is no coincidence that for some reason the registration of this marriage is postponed. It is very useful for a woman to understand the causes of diseases that may be evidence of a lack of sexual compatibility. In such a situation, it may also be worth contacting another astrologer. As in medicine, with a negative prognosis, safety net and counter-diagnosis are useful. From my point of view, the efforts that will be spent on understanding what is happening, understanding your feelings, are not only worth it, but will also pay off if they can transform the relationship into the most constructive direction and each of the partners will really meet someone who will help you feel and understand what love and harmony mean. Psychological study is the key to finding love and harmonization of relationships Without qualified psychological study, it is quite difficult to understand such relationships, since the element of the distorted vision is the Black Moon, attraction – Lunar Nodes. But not all psychological methods provide tools for working through karmic problems. If at least one of the partners begins psychological work to understand the causes of the disease or the characteristics of the relationship, then with the help of the holographic therapy method it will be possible not only to understand the reasons for what is happening, but also to improve one’s condition , but also to understand under what circumstances the karmic debt was formed. By resolving the situation in the past by clearing the negativity, forgiveness, removing claims, neutralizing negative programs (for example, to take revenge for the pain caused, or the program not to have children), the couple will clarify their relationships in the present, they will be able to get rid of illusions and false attraction and independently accept the right decision. In tense karmic relationships, it is important to strive to understand the meaning of the relationship, and the main rule of the decision is the desire to build it on the positive. As a rule, the unconscious presence in the field of grievances and claims from the past creates the background for new grievances and dissatisfaction. And as a result, instead of positive interaction, people accumulate grievances and complaints - thus, a vicious circle operates, from which it is difficult to get out on your own. In the example given, it is extremely difficult to build a positive relationship without elaboration, since there is not enough harmony in them (there is neither spiritual intimacy nor sexual compatibility) - the cement that is necessary to build a solid foundation. Therefore, it is recommended to transfer them to the sphere of friendly interaction, where they can be built on the positive. Often, due to the action of various and contradictory aspects, it is difficult to understand your feelings. And if a negative experience and a negative model have been gained in the parental family, then it is extremely difficult not to become hostage to the fear of loneliness. When is psychological work needed? Let me give another example, when a 40-year-old woman came to me for advice in the field of “Love, Family, Children.” whose family experience is over 12 years and who has two children. Analyzing her natal chart, I was very glad that in her horoscope there was an indication of possible harmony in the sexual sphere and the sphere of interaction with men. True, the experience of her parents was tense: her mother divorced her father, and the girl grew up without a father. On the one hand, a paternal model of relationships with men was laid down - she really wanted to receive the love and attention of her father that was missing in childhood. And on the other hand, the reason for dissatisfaction with her personal life was the fear of loneliness and the reluctance to repeat the fate of her mother and raise children without a husband . In the woman's natal chart there was an indication of the possibility of more than onemarriage. In possible marital situations, there were 3 harmonious types and 1 tense type. Imagine my surprise when an analysis was made of her compatibility with her husband. Because from a wide range of different possibilities, she chose the tense, least successful option. The main reason for her choice was the model of her father: her husband was older and even according to his zodiac sign he was a repetition of his father. And in him she sought to get what she so lacked in childhood. But no matter how you quench the wound received in childhood, you can’t quench it with the help of a relationship with a man. This wound needs to be healed through psychological counseling. The second reason was low self-esteem and lack of confidence in one’s own strengths and female attractiveness. It was also based on the problem of family relationships between the parents and the lack of love and acceptance from the father, as well as the peculiarities of the mother’s strict attitude. Due to lack of self-confidence, the woman had no experience of courtship and relationships with men for quite a long time. And, afraid to be left alone, she married the first man with whom she had a relationship. Of course, in her natal chart there was an indication of the possibility of this union. The synastry chart with the spouse was dominated by tense aspects and, according to the characteristics of their chart, their relationship was dominated by tension, confrontation, resentment and conflict. Moreover, both spouses did not feel love from their partner. They had virtually no contact with each other at the time of the consultation. And the relationship was perceived as formal, which was burdensome. The most valuable and brightest thing in this union were the children, and they were the reason for the preservation of painful ties. The sadness of these relationships is not only that the priceless life of people passes “with a closed heart”, without a feeling of joy and love, which certainly affects their decreased emotional background, illnesses due to grievances, people spend their invaluable life energy on confrontation and survival. At the same time, they lay down a “tense family model” for their children. And this woman’s life could have turned out in a completely different way, there could and still can be reciprocity, love and sexual harmony. If this woman had turned to a qualified astrologer for a consultation at a time when her relationship was just taking shape, everything could have turned out differently. She would learn about which partner corresponds to her inner ideal of a man, the circumstances of a possible meeting of love, a description of possible marriage partners and the characteristics of the relationship between them. In her case, there was a hint of an unsuccessful marriage and disappointment with a partner with an age difference of over 10 years. Knowing that she would have the possibility of several marriages reduced the fear of being alone. And if a woman turned to a psychologist for advice, she would work through the trauma of her relationship with her father, disidentify from her mother’s model of family relationships, work through the reasons for low self-esteem and strengthen self-acceptance and faith in her own strengths. This would not only prepare her for a meeting with a more harmonious partner, but would also bring her closer. Fear of pain and disappointment are the main points of psychological study. Often, despite the desire to love and be loved, people have many fears and doubts that they worthy of the love and attention of a successful (beautiful, accomplished, bright, etc.) person. The fear of pain and disappointment that love can bring may be greater than the desire to meet it, which creates unfulfillment in the sphere of love. This often occurs among people who have experienced betrayal, infidelity and a failed marriage, as well as those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. In this case, a person develops a model of failure, and fears of repetition often, on the contrary, serve as a magnet that attracts such a partner. Because this is the test and lesson that a person must solve. In such situations, in order to create new harmonious relationships, it is recommended to work through the negative, let go of grievances, neutralize fears and, based on the awareness of existing life experience, create an image of the desired partner. At/