Games in an alcoholic family are well described by E. Bern. In this game, the following roles are distinguished: The alcoholic is the leading role. The main intention is to be constantly intoxicated. The role is determined not by external reasons, but by the disease within the body. Since the disease is denied, games are created that will allow the alcoholic not only to drink, but also to maintain the myth that he is healthy. In addition, these games help the alcoholic justify himself and stay in the family and in society. And continue to drink. Victim, offended child - roles that protect the alcoholic. They allow you to drop accusations and self-accusations, and remove responsibility. Persecutor - most often this role is played by the wife of an alcoholic. There may also be a mother, boss and other people on whom the alcoholic is dependent. On a superficial level, the desire to protect the alcoholic from alcohol, the desire to change him. At a deep level, the main intention is to be correct by correcting others, fear of one’s imperfections, fear of not being needed. Rescuer - most often the wife plays this role when she saves an alcoholic at critical moments, in states of binge, supports his social status, and obtains exculpatory documents so as not to be kicked out of work. On the surface of the game there are intentions to save the alcoholic and the family. At a deep level, it encourages the alcoholic to drink and asserts herself in the role of a rescuer. A wife can act as a victim when she suddenly begins to understand the futility of everything she does. The husband drinks more and more, she blindly believes that he will pull himself together. She again saves him from being fired and gets him a certificate. Believing his promises that now he will not drink, he flies home on the wings and sees that he is drunk again, as always. A kind fellow or a simpleton is the one who lends money, borrows a bottle. At a deep level, they realize their intentions. Games with alcoholism in the family always and for everyone have a dual character, i.e. are manipulative. For example, an alcoholic, playing the role of a caring owner, invites a plumber to fix the plumbing, the deep intention of this behavior is to drink. He knows that in the presence of a stranger, his wife will not humiliate him by limiting his drinking. Or, by inviting acquaintances (“simps”) to a picnic, the alcoholic on the surface demonstrates the role of someone who cares about maintaining social contacts and doing something nice for his wife. At a deep level, drinking without control. The son of a bitch knows that his wife will not control his drinking in the presence of friends. If you remember that alcoholism is a biochemical disease and the craving for alcohol is primary, and behavior is secondary, then you can imagine that an alcoholic wants to drink because of his illness, and to hide this, games are created that constantly prove that the people around him and the world are literally make him drink. For the game to start, the alcoholic must involve at least one person, his wife, and preferably more, also children, into his alcoholic games. So, the alcoholic, because he is sick, wants to drink. If he wants to use his wife, he says, “I will go.” If the wife asks: “Where?” This is already a clue. “You control me, what right do you have to prohibit me! You all limit my freedom." And after that, you can calmly start drinking, telling your drinking buddies what a bitch he has to live with. If the wife says: “Go.” You can say: “You gave me permission.” And with resentment that everyone is indifferent to me and no one needs me, he can go and get drunk, complaining to his drinking buddies about what an inattentive and insensitive woman he has to live with. In short, I want a drink and am waiting for what role you will hook me in. Come on, hook me up and give me a chance to drink. If you're silent, I'll make an offer. And it doesn’t matter what you answer, you simply don’t have a chance. For example. “Can I go to the pool room?” The wise wife is silent, intuitively feeling that any answer is a provocation. If she says don't go, it will cause an outburst of indignation about the restrictions. If she says go, it means that she gave.