In time immemorial, nature itself divided us mammals into two sexes. This was done so that we could somehow survive effectively. Well, you know, one gender has one task, the other has another, and all that. For this reason, even we were created different. Now the world is changing, industrialization has turned the rules of the game upside down and now, in fact, everyone can do everything. Well, except that it’s difficult for women to work as loaders, and even in a couple of not very popular jobs. Well, it’s fashionable now, of course, to interpret our differences from the point of view of socialization (at this moment the features of the nervous system, the features of the hormonal system and the anatomical structure said “well, yes, well, yes, let’s go...”) but she is not like that either and weak factor. In general, the rules of the game have changed, biological programs have not yet particularly adapted to them (and some believe that there are no biological programs, there is only society) and now we live as it turns out. But very important questions arise, to which humanity is looking for answers even more frantically than to the question about the meaning of life. “Who owes what to whom”? and “Who is to blame for my problems”? By the way, both mere mortals and coaches and psychologists are now ready to give these answers with varying degrees of success. Especially if these are Instagram* psychologists. Or from tiktok. And professionals do not shun such definitions, although they supposedly must be impartial and not convey their value system to the client. But oh well. Let's turn now to Wikipedia. Battle of the sexes is a general concept that refers to the conflict between male and female gender roles. How does this manifest itself in practice? I'll be happy to tell you. The conflict between male and female gender roles in its modern form looks like a battle for those gender stereotypes that are beneficial and a protest against those gender stereotypes that are not beneficial. Everything is very simple. Let's give examples. Let's take a man from the CIS countries and the former USSR. Society puts pressure on him that he must play the role of breadwinner and provide for his family. But the trouble is, in this same society, it is difficult for a man to have an income that allows him to cover the needs of the whole family and not live like homeless people. For this reason, the woman next to him also works. It would seem that both are working, the income is close to equal, the contribution seems to be + - the same. But no. The man still does not want to forget that he is the head of the family. And he can’t handle women’s duties either. Why? “Well... it's... kind of... because! Well, such a man will definitely dictate to a woman what to do. And disappear or become an alcoholic at the most crucial moments, too. But he will not abandon his claim to supremacy and recognition of himself as the highest stage of evolution. Yes, his income is not enough to cover the needs of his family. He also has difficulty closing his own. Yes, the house and children are something that is put in order and grows on its own. Magic is like that. Yes, the wife will make any responsible decisions in the house. So what? This does not affect the status of the head of the family in any way!) “But in general, if it works out, you can go to the left. So what? A woman must be faithful, but a man is polygamous. This is nature.” Well, a bunch of other prohibitions in the style of “you don’t cheat, but I will,” as I already said, “you don’t smoke, but I will,” “you don’t swear, but I will,” “you take care of yourself, and I will.” I won’t.” Women, however, are more creative in the battle for their gender benefits and getting rid of disadvantageous gender stereotypes. Here even the soul rejoices. For example, women do not want to be under the yoke of patriarchy. And it’s hard not to understand them. But... great power = great responsibility, which women, in fact, did not take into account. And here we get the following picture: “So! I am strong, independent and will do what I want! And if necessary, I’ll put you in your place!.. In the sense of supporting yourself? What do you mean he pays in half?! Aw! What value do you have then? It’s clear that I am valuable in itself, but you still have to prove....” And then we find out why a man still owes something. “Pay the bill?Well, whoever invited pays. This is etiquette.” Out of curiosity, I interviewed women who say this about whether they pay for their friends and whether their friends pay for them when they go somewhere. And no, as it turns out, they don’t pay. Even those women who invite men themselves, imagine, the majority do not pay for them. But... the sample is small. Maybe a sociological study would show a different picture, although I doubt it =). And the bloggers who broadcast that a man’s value is what he gives, but a WOMAN is valuable only by the fact of her existence. Well, and so on like “a woman’s main resource is her time and youth” (well, that is, a man’s time and youth are not taken into account), “my money is my money, and your money is our money” and so on. Both of them essentially convey the philosophy of “take more, give less.” In some areas of MD, there is generally an idea to make the most of the “demo mode” and move on. And on some women's forums and blogs, they teach how to increase sources of income, which are men. And then we are surprised at how many are offended and traumatized. Why is the “victory” of women in this war not beneficial, on a global scale, to the women themselves (as well as vice versa)? Now I will try to state my position. In fact, this is not difficult to understand if you have basic empathy and the ability to stand in the shoes of not only a representative of your own sex, but also someone else. “Consumers” harm members of their own sex. After a cycle of traumatization, the “used resource” will no longer want to seriously engage with representatives of the opposite sex. Because it’s more expensive for yourself. Try listening to the stories of MD-ers and feminists. And yes, many of them really went through an openly bestial attitude towards themselves. Yes, the question of how they ended up in dysfunctional relationships over and over again remains open. But nonetheless. What kind of attitude will a person have towards the opposite sex after frank and constant retraumatization? And so, relatively speaking, you are quite a positive guy or girl. Ready and open to relationships. We are ready to invest, to be through thick and thin, etc. And it seems that this is how it should be and everything seems to be fine. You just want to have a loved one nearby and cooperate in a relationship. Only this can play a cruel joke, since there is always a chance of meeting a traumatic person who has already been “bent in” several times in a relationship. You can be as good as you like, but this will not save you from men who believe that a woman is an incompetent creature and can only be trained through ignoring, and indeed only a temporary option. And from women who believe that you can only love yourself, and take the maximum from a man and treat them as people - it is not at all necessary. That is, by “bending” to your demands and injuring someone, you create those who will do the same to others. The force of action is equal to the force of reaction. Recently, at the suggestion of a girl, I downloaded TikTok. There is a lot of garbage there, but also useful content. And so I scroll through the feed and I come across a video with a young girl, clearly of a young age, who broadcasts that if a man does not want to share property, it means he does not love, does not appreciate and generally wants to steal time and beauty. You can only live with such a man (at his expense, of course), do NOTHING for him, and you can also cheat on him, and in general it’s better to “being on his support, look for a better option.” That is, this is practically a quote. Well, then there are a bunch of women’s comments saying “yes, you are so wise, yes, I do that too, this is the most correct model!” And two videos later, another blogger says that mercantile women were invented by “pathetic men” and in general, this almost never happens, they invent it all themselves to justify their failure. That is, first the man hears information that he should be a milk cow, and then that he came up with it all. What kind of attitude can be expected from a man towards women if he sees, hears,.