There is not a single person in your life who appeared in it just like that. Everything in the world is natural and systematic. I will say even more: not even a fly flies past you. It’s just that usually people don’t attach any importance to it and don’t see the meaning in what’s happening to them. If your husband criticizes you, it means you’re doing the same to other people or to yourself. If advisors gather around you and come to you with constant suggestions on how to make your life better, then you, too, are constantly trying to cause someone good and irreparable happiness. And everything that you emit into this world and other people boomerangs back to you with greater force. Therefore, when you want to throw the responsibility for all the pain that was caused to you onto some “unlucky Vasya,” then no, it won’t work that way. . If you have been betrayed, then ask yourself: “Who do I betray every day?” When people lie to you, ask yourself: “Who do I lie to all the time?” And then you create any situation in your life yourself. You create any problems for yourself. For some, there is no other meaning to live except to solve problems. And some people stubbornly do not see how unecologically they manifest themselves in the world and towards other people. And then the world has no other options for how to show you what you are doing in your life, so other people choose to take on these unpleasant roles and play them for you. And the key here is that it is not the people who are bad, but the roles that they they choose to take on roles that are extremely unpleasant both for you and for the people who play these roles. No one likes to be a cheater, but this person’s soul loves yours so much that it is ready to take on this unpleasant role in order to show you where you are betraying and cheating on yourself or other people. There is such a law as “karma 69”. And it’s precisely about the fact that everything always comes back like a boomerang. But it happens that what is being returned to you now is the resetting of unequal balances from past lives. I am sure that everyone knows this feeling when you see a person for the first time and realize that it is as if you already know him or have seen him somewhere. And this is really possible; you might have already known each other in a past life. It may even be that you were once your “evil” great-grandmother, whom you always condemned after your mother’s stories. And now you have come to this incarnation of the conventional “Sveta”, the great-granddaughter of that same grandmother. Or maybe you are already married to your husband for the 100th time, who knows? But one way or another, random people don’t come to us. These are either our teachers or those with whom we have unequal balances. And in order to even out these balances, you need to live what you are living. Therefore, you yourself can make your life easier by removing resentment and condemnation of other people for their actions. When you start looking at situations through the lens of “what is this about me?” and total gratitude for the experience that you received from people and events, then your internal state is leveled out. You finally begin to take care of yourself and your inner state, and not drain your energy into other people and events that devour you from the inside. It is easy to love those who have something to love for. And it is more difficult to love those whom there is absolutely nothing to love for. But it is in the second option that love lives.