Your thoughts are not you. It's not always obvious, but it's true. You can think so many different thoughts in a situation, about yourself, about the world, about people. But this does not mean at all that they are you. Rather, it is you who choose them every minute in accordance with your idea of ​​​​life. But even here you should not think that your idea of ​​yourself is really not imposed on you by anyone and is inseparable from you and your personality.⠀Once upon a time, under the influence of upbringing, circumstances and other factors, you made decisions about how everything works in life . And then it was really very useful and relevant for you. If in adult life you encounter difficulties about all this, then there is a possibility that right now such thoughts no longer help you.⠀Which means it’s time to reconsider your beliefs.⠀Reconsidering does not mean radically changing them to the opposite. This means checking their relevance.⠀For example, Katya is 27 and she suffers all day long from the fact that she is not married and considers this the main tragedy of her life. Upon closer examination, you will notice that Katya considers marriage to be part of the happy life of any woman, and in her picture of the world, without it, a woman is incomplete. Therefore, since she is not married, it means she is inferior. This is her attitude towards herself. Having identified such a connection between the circumstances of her life and her beliefs about herself, Katya can quite consciously decide whether such a belief helps her or hinders her. Does any woman really become inferior if she does not have a husband? does the fact that she lacks this important aspect really make her bad?⠀If so, then Katya may well leave this attitude as a given, she can make it more flexible, or completely abandon the attitude in favor of another - in accordance with your inner sense of self. Either option is normal and can be chosen. The main thing in this is awareness and consideration of internal convictions from all sides.⠀No one has the right to influence the decision regarding an attitude except herself.⠀The task of a psychologist is only to help understand oneself and create space for awareness, acceptance, or change.⠀*Situation and the name is a collective image