"A deuce again!" - Vitya slammed the diary and stared at the wall. There, as a reminder to careless students, hung a reproduction of the painting of the same name by F. Reshetnikov. Will something happen at home? Mom will be upset. Dad will be unhappy and will deprive him of his phone for a week. Maybe he’ll scream... I don’t want to go home. And why are these marks so important to parents? Let’s continue the conversation about what you shouldn’t scold your child for. Read the beginning here.5. MistakesChildren often make mistakes. He said the wrong thing, did the wrong thing, put it in the wrong place, etc. No one is born with perfect knowledge, skills and abilities. Everyone learns from their mistakes. BUT! If a parent reacts violently to a child’s mistakes, the fear of making a mistake settles in him. Over time, this fear makes the child withdrawn, insecure, and anxious. Such a child is afraid to answer questions, act and even speak. And most importantly, he stops trying new things, learning the unknown. What if something goes wrong? Have you ever met such children? Yes, for me. A sad sight... A mistake is not a tragedy. It's what happens after that matters. If the child does not give up, he realizes what is wrong, tries again and finally wins. Congratulations! A strong personality is growing in your family.6. Failure in studies. The situation is greatly aggravated by school. There the “cult of correct answers” ​​awaits the child. You know - well done. If you don’t know, “sit down “2”. And there is no chance for reasoning and your opinion. The marks do not reflect the real state of affairs, they do not say what the problem is. But they, like nails, hammer into the child a feeling of powerlessness and hopelessness. Do not judge your own children according to marks in the diary. Learning is a process. Whether the child knows the correct answer or not is not important. The main thing is to maintain interest in learning, aspiration and confidence in one’s abilities. If you notice uncertainty, anxiety, fear of new things in a child, pay attention. to this attention. Perhaps you react too emotionally to his mistakes. Or he experiences severe discomfort in lessons at school. Replace anger with mercy, reproaches with support. Help your child believe in himself again. Read the end of the cycle here. Your family psychologist Ekaterina Shumeiko 💞 Sign up for a consultation on the website or WhatsApp +79605238687