The art of conversation is really not accessible to everyone, and good interlocutors are worth their weight in gold. The whole point is that people make the same typical mistakes in communication, let’s look at them. The very first and the most obvious is the inability to listen to the interlocutor. This is especially acute when it comes to phubbing – people simply don’t let go of their gadgets, even when they’ve come to meet friends. This is extremely sad. As a result, either a kind of “circles of interests” develop, where everyone meets just for the sake of “showing off” while they themselves “sit” on their phones, or the relationship collapses if one of the interlocutors is not satisfied with this approach to communication. Another mistake that can be a consequence of the inability to listen (or bad manners) is when a person talks only about himself. Moreover, for the sake of decency, he can ask questions to his interlocutor, but without letting him finish, he begins to tell something of his own. One gets the impression that these questions are addressed to the person asking himself. A good interlocutor is always sincerely interested in the answer and does not put in his “two cents” unless asked in response. Bad form is to brag. It would seem like a kindergarten question, but try to analyze a few of your recent conversations. Most often this happens in conversations with people not in the closest circle (with those closest to us, in most cases, we talk about problems) in order to create a certain image in the eyes of the interlocutor. However, not everyone likes to discuss other people’s achievements, unless it’s “an evening named after so-and-so.” Envy? No, it’s just that adequate communication is built on equality, and when one of the interlocutors is constantly trying to elevate himself, there is no smell of equality here. This is appropriate if the topic of the conversation is truly a discussion of the achievements and successes of those gathered. Distribution of inappropriate and tactless advice, as well as advice that was not asked for at all. Of course, this may be a sincere desire to help and share experience so that a loved one avoids mistakes, but it’s still better to ask before that if you can give advice. Fear of doing something wrong. This becomes especially acute when meeting people and during the first stages of communication. People can’t relax, they put on different “masks”, try to create a certain impression and are terrified of saying something wrong. Because of this, the conversation is extremely difficult to move forward and is “saturated” with tension. Think about it, what's the point of trying to pretend to be something if you're hoping for a long-term, honest relationship? Be yourself. Also, it is not a good idea to discuss gossip with people who are simply acquaintances. In principle, it is better to refrain from such discussions altogether, but if you really want to “wash out” someone’s bones, do it only with your closest and trusted people. What other mistakes do people make in conversations with each other? Describe your ideal interlocutor. Book a consultation: WhatsApp, Telegram +7 913 380-83-42 Skype: as3808342 Learn to manage your emotions!💪