If in your life it often happens that you are used. You are a good person, you often help, but you always come across bad and irresponsible people. You don’t understand why, being a good and caring person, fate does not answer you in the same way, and there is complete injustice all around. What signs can you use to understand that you are a Rescuer: You do not remain indifferent when someone is feeling bad, you try to help your friends and family. Even when such situations are repeated, and you see that a person does not draw conclusions, does not take care of himself, you still have the thought: “If not me, then who will help him?” It is difficult for you to refuse help to someone even if you this is not particularly convenient. When you find yourself in a relationship, you try your best to make the person next to you feel good, you want to be the best, and so that they love you for it, need you and never leave you. But what’s interesting is that the more you the more you try, the more your partner takes it for granted, and even begins to take advantage of you, and then may leave the relationship altogether. Despite the fact that your partner has not changed for the better for more than one year, you still hope for the best, and you continue to save him. After breaking up, you are tormented by the question: “What did you do wrong? What is your fault?” This escape pattern is often the result of living in a dysfunctional family. Behind the manifestations of caring for others lies one's own needy child. Taking care of oneself and one's own desires and needs is something forbidden for the Rescuer. Caring for others, the Rescuer expects that they will take care of him in return, but this often does not happen. In moments of rescue, the Rescuer feels omnipotent, his self-esteem increases. It is impossible to need something yourself and ask others for help. In relationships, the Rescuer infantilizes the partner, considers him weaker and more frail than he really is. The rescuer needs to maintain this status quo in order to be needed, to be in a relationship, he does not know anything else. Awareness of the motives for being in a rescue position can serve as a beginning in accepting and implementing new, freer and more satisfying ways of life. It is sad when parents make mistakes , and yet there is time to change what is possible and live life the way you want. Subscribe to my new publications! You can sign up for a psychotherapeutic consultation in person or via Skype with the author of this article by calling +7 926 596 87 15 or on the personal website of Sofia Pushkareva