"I can never finish what I start. I start and quit halfway through. I set a goal, but I can't start doing anything to achieve it. I blame myself for this, scold myself, compare with others. For them, everything is different, because they really want it.” Such requests are being made more and more often. And they really appeal to the fact that the whole difficulty is that a person does not want to achieve something enough. It’s all about some kind of desire that is not so good, incorrectly formulated, incorrectly visualized. But perhaps it’s worth looking in the other direction? There is the sphere of “I want and I don’t want,” and there is the sphere of “I can and I can’t.” And this “I can/can’t” is much more important, more significant, more significant than “I want/I don’t want.” Ultimately, it is “I can / I can’t” that determine how we will finish what we started, what we will do for this, what we need to do for this. And if we focus on “I can/can’t”, we set goals that are adequate for fulfillment and organize conditions suitable for this. When we talk about “I can’t”, we are talking about restrictions. Any: internal, external, physical, mental, spatial, temporal. Each of us has them. And it’s great when we know about them, relate to them, take them into account. I can’t concentrate on work when my daughter is constantly tugging at me, so I’ll work when she’s in the garden, or I’ll create conditions for her in which she won’t be. bother me. I won't be an on-going mom if I don't get enough sleep, so I can't watch the show after ten in the evening. I can’t communicate in instant messengers with several people at the same time, it’s a big burden for my psyche, so I’ll end the dialogue. If you look closely, we have many restrictions: small, large, significant and not very significant. They relate to both individual aspects of organizing activities and life in general. When we rely on limitations, we rely on reality. Then we focus on reality and act in accordance with it. Then restrictions turn from something constraining, weak, and shameful into unique features, important moments, and priorities. And then we know that if we don’t finish some activity, give up something halfway, or don’t start moving towards a goal, then we shouldn’t scold ourselves and blame ourselves. And it’s worth taking another look at your “I can’t».