“Darling, please let me breathe...” with this quote I want to start our conversation in continuation of the article “Mommy” for a husband or wife. ArticleDirector Johan Nijenhuis from the Netherlands made the film “Escape from Marriage” about a soul that so strives for freedom. Having accidentally stumbled upon this film on the YouTube channel, watching it, a lot of similar family stories surfaced in my memories and prompted me to write an article. But this is a tendency of overprotection wives are common in many countries, regardless of language differences and territories. Of course, a woman by nature shows love through care and affection. It is important for her to create comfort, coziness and a relaxed atmosphere in the house. But it happens when the desire to care turns into control, tips, instructions, becoming a problem later. So in the film, the main character Ian, after 35 years of marriage, was so tired of his wife’s suffocating love that he came up with an original way to escape from the marriage. To me, his escape even reminds me, to some extent, of a teenage rebellion with this burning desire to take a breath of the long-awaited air of freedom. The excessive care of his wife, guarding him like a child, has become such a burden for him over the years. But unfortunately, the beloved does not even notice that she is “smothering” him with her excessive care. And this intensifies even more after the children leave. The dominant model of behavior of the parental family in the film, which Hedda absorbed from her mother, is wonderfully shown. All the husbands of this family live their lives under the guidance of their wives, who know what will be best for them, in general, a complete matriarchy. So, the way that happened to the hero of reassessing values ​​​​about the impossibility of living according to the laws of an “ideal marriage” turned out to be quite eccentric, but at the same time very effective. The plot is very instructive and you can take it as a guide to analyzing mistakes in relationships between spouses, where there is overprotection. “Darling, please let me breathe...” Ian tries to convey throughout the film. What Ian will do and what method he will choose to free himself from the shackles of guardianship, watch the film. Do you think freedom of choice is important in a family or not? How to let go of the role of mother and become a wife, how to be a man, and not fall into the role of “son” “I recommend reading the following article “Mommy” for a husband or wife, part III. If you found the article interesting and useful, click “thank you” and write comments. I will help you understand, find the nature of the problems that have arisen, realizing your mistakes in the past, you have the opportunity to change your erroneous actions for motivation , self confidence. You can sign up for a consultation here. Sincerely, female psychologist Svetlana Mezhidova.