Big cities, Empty trains, Neither shore nor bottom Everything starts all over again The Cold War And time is like water...Correspondence “By and large, no one needs me here, and in a small way too. We need to gather our strength and come up with it ourselves, call, ask, walk, write. Helplessness, confusion, apathy. Question - what am I doing here??? The answer is, what will I do there???”Zemfira. “I’m thinking about this now too. Well, what else can and should be done to just live normally, and not engage in constant survival? Some kind of nasty feeling of dependence (on the verge of humiliation) on the outside world, as if circumstances and the outside world are stronger than me and the outside world decides where I should be, how much I earn, like a wall. I'm not morally enthusiastic about big cities. The larger the city, the more functional it is in terms of human warmth - it is rarely found there, as if you need to conquer this city, use aggression, and not take off this aggressive mask, otherwise you will be devoured. Outwardly, one becomes cold and has an empty gaze, in order to somehow camouflage and pretend to belong in this city. Again, it’s as if you don’t show your will, but adapt yourself through an effort of will to the image that will be in demand in this city. This is somehow morally difficult, but possible. In big cities, loneliness and uselessness are felt more acutely. Apparently, the egregors of big cities are spoiled and more energy can be taken from newcomers due to the desire to stay and get hooked in this city. What do you think of the city itself, do you want to be there? Or there is a goal, but the name of the city does not matter for achieving the goal.” Elena. “I think you’re right in many ways. I’m like a firebird out of place, my coloring and my posture have all disappeared. I am simply becoming incapable of resources in the conditions that I am now enduring - a small room, washed clothes, dishes, a kitchen - everything indicates a desire to survive, not to live. People buy a lot of groceries and carry bags. Yes, this city is mine - just not this area, but a fashionable one with parking, security, aesthetic planning and clean streets. Only I'm whose...? Answer: Yes, there are some peculiarities of living in big cities. So in big cities, the time it takes to get home from work increases several times. And it doesn’t matter whether you’re by metro or by car. Of course, there are lucky people who live close to work, but where is the guarantee that you will be so lucky? My friend went to the capital city, and there he encountered the same feeling of uselessness, automatic existence and loneliness. As if in a big city you dissolve into the BACKGROUND . You are a dot (Figure) on a huge canvas (Background) of a big city. And if you were respected, known, valued in a small town, where it is easier to be seen, then it is not a fact that they will be seen in a big one. It is necessary to somehow immediately manage to get into your context (layer) of habitual comfort. And it consists of many things: place of residence, convenience, work, familiar, habitual ways of relaxation, patterns of behavior. So, it is easier for young people to take off and change their conditions; they are drawn by the thirst for building their own, not their parents’, the craving for independence. They often take root in big cities. As for older people, who have their own world, which they have built around themselves from a young age, they will experience psychological difficulties if they do not competently plan a strategy for moving and staying in a big city. The main question is “Why?” Who can I lean on THERE?” must be decided in advance, this will save you your strength and energy. So, go for it! Just look at what Background and who you are here, and who and what Background you will be there. The theory of the Gestalt approach works “Background and Figure” are interconnected and carry out their dance of life. psychological counseling via Skype. Skype psihologgorodaLogin: Access to interesting information on practical psychology here on the website b17.ru