A driver is a habitual way of behavior based on a parental script. A description of the drivers is in the previous article at the link https://www.b17.ru/article/368441/#comHow to make behavior drivers environmentally friendly: ✔ First, identify your leading driver. The more you understand about yourself, the more you can influence your life, change your behavior. ✔ Determine (write down) in what situations and when does your driver manifest itself? ✔ How does it bother you in these situations? ✔ Realize that it is not yours, but someone else’s order that drives you into limits. Whose is it really?✔ Think about how you would actually like to behave in situations if you were not influenced by the driver?✔ Determine and choose for yourself another rational way of behavior. You can first write down all the situations to make it easier and clearer for you (writing it down on paper is always more difficult, but more effective). Learn to gradually introduce a new way of behavior into your life. Recommendations for each driver: If your dominant driver is “BE PERFECT” (“be the best”): 1. It is necessary to reduce the general level of anxiety in life2. Try to shift the focus of attention from waiting for the result to the process of activity itself and enjoy it3. Implement the motto in your life: “Good enough.” And then you will be able to feel your worth regardless of your achievements, but at the same time, new goals will become a motivator for you, not a stressor! If your “HURRY” driver dominates: 1. Write down the disadvantages of this position on a piece of paper2. Realize at what point you begin to rush yourself3. Set short-term goals for yourself with specific performance standards4. Learn to plan your day/week/month/year5. Learn to slow down and take time to rest. Put aside all the attributes of modern life and lie down for 10-15 minutes a day, just looking at the ceiling (it will be unusual, track your sensations and feelings at this moment) If your driver is “HAPPY OTHERS”: 1. Instead of pleasing others, introduce the motto into your life: “I can please myself, I don’t need anyone for this. I am the most important person to myself. I need myself.”2. Instead of looking for approval from others, pay attention to YOUR attitude towards other people. Remember the people from your inner circle, and think: How do I really feel about them? Do I like everything about their attitude towards me? (You may be very surprised)If your driver is “BE STRONG”:1. It is important to develop skills in expressing emotions, asking for help, support and empathy2. Learn to relax and unwind 3. Allow yourself to be weak in some situations4. Introduce the motto into your life: “I can be open, sincere, spontaneous. I am who I am with all my feelings and am already suitable for this world.” If the “TRY” driver is dominant in you: 1. Shift the focus from preparing for actions to real actions2. Stop generating new ideas for a while and start using willpower to complete the things you start (even small ones)3. Don’t devalue what comes easy to you (you already have skills and knowledge)4. Understand that life is not only a struggle, but the process of life itself and learn to relax. You can completely free yourself from parental scenarios and live your life happily with the support of a psychologist. You can make an appointment with me at +79500042139 (WhatsApp). Please leave a message and I will definitely answer you, since I might miss the call. I will be glad to help you! Kazantseva Arina Olegovna