From the author: The topic of the “internal observer” is relevant in any work on self-development. In the hustle and bustle of real life, most people act mechanically, “on autopilot,” often without realizing what they do. Having realized later about what has been done, it is not always possible to correct anything, because it is not in vain that they say: “after a battle they don’t wave their fists,” because the past cannot be returned. This style of life is characteristic of people deeply immersed in their mind, that is, when a person - “executor” of his template programs. The absence of an internal observer contributes to the development of various dependent states. While you are a “performer”, it is very difficult for you to realize something in yourself, and even more difficult to change something. In order to become the master of your own life, to achieve your goals, you should learn to be an “observer”, and not just learn, but learn to do it consciously. For this, in fact, you don’t need anything special, because you already have everything - perception , attention, ability to concentrate. Of course, what matters is the inner attitude and the willingness to see yourself without fear, the way you are. First, you should find within yourself the “inner observer”, which is part of your consciousness. This is the part of consciousness that is always watching what is happening, is present and testifies everything that happens to the “participant”. She does not interfere in anything, does not react in any way, does not evaluate in any way, she simply observes dispassionately. In order to explore oneself, it is worth, first of all, to go through disidentification with the “performer” and move to the position of an “observer”. Become aware of your “performer” " and "observer" can be used in different ways. For example, through observing the performance of one’s social roles. Watch yourself - imagine that you are making a film about yourself and you are simultaneously a cameraman, director and actor playing your roles in a life scenario. Try to see yourself from the outside, carefully observe what the actor says, what emotions he experiences, what actions he performs. Just watch, without trying to evaluate the actor and the quality of his “game”. Record your sensations and feelings at the moment of observation, they will be useful to you, later I will explain why. At first, the “observer” is very easily lost from the field of vision of your consciousness, you should not be scared or upset, this is rather normal for an undeveloped skill, but you find and bring back him again and again, continue to carefully perceive yourself as a “performer” This is the first step in managing yourself. Having learned to be a cameraman filming an actor and observing yourself, it will be easier for you to involve a director to control the quality of the actor’s performance of one or another of your roles, that is, the actions of the performer. That is, the essence of the observation process can be considered as the practice of transferring attention from oneself as a “performer” of roles and events, to oneself as an “observer” of oneself as a “performer.” The following ways to remain an observer can be identified: - Remember your feelings when you were observing yourself, and you will automatically become an “observer.” Of course, at first it will be difficult for you to simultaneously be in the role of “observer” and “performer.” But remember - practice makes wonders! Try again and again to return to the role of the observer if you suddenly realize that you have fallen from it. - The second option - the method of “internal research” from the internal OBSERVER of your own consciousness - is more effective. Learn (bring to the skill) the ability to turn your gaze inward. The “researcher” will help you with this - the part of your consciousness that is inquisitive, which is interested in exploring your inner world, not just identifying states - I’m angry now, but also feeling them realistically, without being pushed deep into the shadows, where they cannot be seen. This is not easy to do at first. But due to the fact that attention is redirected inward, the inner OBSERVER becomes more and more concentrated and persistent each time. Observe - this is your conscious “I”!