The ability to trust, love, and positively resolve conflicts with loved ones begins in childhood, much earlier than one might think. “Relationships with your mother in the first 12 to 18 months of life predict behavior in romantic relationships twenty years later,” says study author, psychologist Jeffry A. Simpson of the University of Minnesota. The study subjects included 75 children of low-income mothers. , whom scientists followed from birth to age 30, studying their relationships with close friends and romantic partners. In early childhood, some have been involved in long-term strange or stressful family situations. As adults, it was necessary to regularly "return to childhood" to assess emotional and social development. After several analyses, the researchers provided evidence that confirmed earlier psychological theories. "Psychologists have wondered about the existence of continuity in human behavior over time," says Simpson. “We found a faint but important commonality that began when he was a baby in his mother’s arms and continued in him - already a twenty-year-old lover.” Everything bad can be changed if you can identify these old behavioral patterns, voice them to yourself, If you take this self-critically, you can reconsider your current behavior and calibrate it differently. A child betrayed by his parents can become faithful. An unloved baby can learn to love. Everything can be fixed, you just have to want it.The Ability to Love Takes Root in Earliest Infancy (Association for Psychological Science)The Ability To Love Takes Root In Earliest Infancy (Medical News Today)Ability to Love Takes Root in Earliest Infancy (ScienceDaily))