This article was written primarily for the fair half of humanity, but if men also find something useful in it for themselves, please let me know It’s not a pity. It’s somehow become a culture in our culture that women are the strong weaker sex, and men, on the contrary, are weak and strong. There are moments in the lives of our compatriots when they ask themselves the question: “I’m used to achieving everything in life on my own, and everything comes to me with difficulty. Tired of it. How to get out of this? Well, the first step - awareness of the problem - has already been taken. Let's speculate why modern strong women feel so tired. Is it because they are doing something that does not bring pleasure, that they do out of necessity? Perhaps this is one of the reasons. After all, when we do something with passion, we do not notice how time passes, and we have a lot of joy and vitality upon completion of the work. This is a paradox that violates the physical law of conservation of energy - when we enjoy the very process of achieving a result, our energy is not consumed, but, on the contrary, it only grows. Such a forced choice of activity has, in addition to economic, also psychological reasons. They are different for everyone, and to understand them, you need to answer the question “Why do I need this?” The second point is overprotection. This is when a woman happily takes care of her family and puts someone else’s responsibility on her fragile shoulders. By the way, this is one of the probable reasons for the first phenomenon described - when a job is not chosen to one’s liking. Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers lived in difficult post-war times, and they had to take on the responsibility for the family that traditionally belongs to men. Here you need to understand that now we already live in a time when there is no such shortage of men as there was in the post-war period. And, finally, the third important point is the presence/absence of luck. Psychologists have repeatedly conducted studies and found that there are people who are actually luckier than others. The lucky ones and those for whom everything comes with great difficulty differ in their thinking style and worldview. A whole range of nuances in constructing texts, from simple formulation of positivity to NLP techniques, plays a role here. To begin with, you should learn to look for your own, and not trampled by others, ways to solve the issues facing you. In other words, do not look for the beaten path, but show intellectual diligence and think for yourself. Be able to grasp “where the wind is blowing now” and work in a promising direction, or even better, rush there on passing transport. Our words create actions, and actions create reality - so use words correctly, and you will be happy!