Partners with different types of attachment express themselves differently in relationships, and therefore in the situation of their completion. Partners with a mutually secure attachment style have a relatively low divorce rate. Securely attached people tend to choose partners with similar beliefs about intimacy and security in relationships. They form relationships based on mutual and continuous self-disclosure, accepting shortcomings and supporting each other. In the event of divorce, both spouses are reconciled with the decision to divorce and can go through it without mutual blame, even if the initiative came from one of them. Due to a good sense of independence, they begin to treat themselves and their ex-spouse as people who have to rebuild their personal lives with a different partner. Assessing their internal resources as adequate to the challenge that confronts them allows them to face the pain of separation and the prospect of a future life apart, perhaps alone, without feeling unduly threatened or acting in ways that complicate the divorce process. They are able to rationally approach the situation, discuss specific issues aimed at solving problems, without distorting the words and actions of their partner. Both partners understand the need to reorganize their way of life, especially regarding caring for the child. Thanks to their personal abilities and problem-solving skills, they do not dwell on the disappointment of hopes, and begin to reorganize their lives and the future of their children, taking into account the needs of all family members as much as possible. Although people with secure attachment tend to seek help in situations of distress and benefit from it , in most cases they are able to cope with the crisis of divorce without psychological help. If they seek advice, they want to receive information on how to minimize harm to their children, organize mutual participation in raising children, and discuss ways to overcome financial difficulties. The support and assistance of a psychologist in experiencing and understanding the breakup of a relationship gradually leads to adequate adaptation to the current life situation. Partners with secure and avoidant attachment styles. The basis for divorce among partners is often the ability of the avoidant individual to respond to the needs of his spouse for intimacy and reciprocity, demonstrated by his alienation independence. Divorce is often even initiated by the avoidant partner to prevent abandonment because he feels that his spouse is dissatisfied. People with an avoidant attachment style are pessimistic about relationships in general and about the possibility of repairing problematic relationships in particular. Flight is their usual way of reacting. Being realistic, they realize the moment when the marriage can no longer be restored and then agree to divorce without excessive anxiety. The behavior of these couples during the period of divorce is characterized by physical and emotional isolation, a minimum of conflicts and emotional outbursts. Partners with a secure attachment style accept the breakup and turn inward yourself to make sense of your life situation. Partners with an avoidant style tend to deny pain and minimize the importance of their spouse to his or her well-being. They often leave the "couple-bonding territory" when leaving the bedroom or house. They try to complete the divorce process as quickly as possible in order to quickly restore their internal balance. Partners with a secure attachment realize that children need both parents, so they strive to plan a joint plan of action, but are faced with a partner’s tendency to withdraw from the conversation. Because when tension arises in In a relationship, a spouse with a secure attachment style is optimistic about the future of the relationship and may therefore suggest seeking help from a psychologist who works with couples. However, such a couple rarely reachespsychologist, since an avoidant partner is usually not cooperative and rejects any proposals from his partner. Partners with secure and anxious-ambivalent attachment styles. In such a marriage, the first usually takes care of his spouse. This situation can be disrupted due to the excessive clinging of the anxious-ambivalent partner and his rejection of any manifestations of independence, which sooner or later leads to feelings of infringement and resentment of the spouse with a secure attachment. For an anxious-ambivalent person, divorce is a threat, so he holds on to any opportunity to save the marriage , for example, makes agreements that he previously rejected. Both spouses may recognize the need to think about children, but only the partner with a secure attachment is able to separate the marital and parental roles. He continues to take care of the child as before, offers agreements regarding the future, for example, that he could meet the child on weekends. An anxious-ambivalent partner may use children as a way to hold on to their spouse. They have difficulty considering the stress their children are exposed to as a result of the divorce and tend to attribute their own feelings of abandonment and separation anxiety to the children. For example, they may say, "Your father left us" or "She doesn't love us anymore." Both partners may feel extremely angry as repeated attempts to clarify the situation fail. Alone or together, they may seek independent intervention. Anxious-ambivalent partners may offer the opportunity to see a psychologist, usually in the hope that this will change the partner's position. Spouses with a secure attachment style may agree, expecting that the psychologist will help their partner accept the fact of the divorce, cope with feelings of emptiness, helplessness and severe anxiety, or reduce concerns about themselves and think about the future of their children. Partners with an anxious-ambivalent and avoidant attachment style. Person with an avoidant attachment style may unconsciously choose an anxious-ambivalent partner because the latter's dependence justifies his avoidance and confirms the perception of other people as uncaring and rejecting. In turn, a person with an anxious-ambivalent attachment may be attracted to a partner who is slipping away from the relationship; he unconsciously seeks to confirm his fear of abandonment. In marriage, an anxious-ambivalent partner is constantly disappointed by the aloofness and coldness of his partner and, conversely, a partner with an avoidant style is extremely clinging makes him angry, from which he distances himself even more. Under the threat of separation, an anxious-ambivalent partner will try any tricks and maneuvers to keep his “half”. The process of divorce awakens mutual anger. In anxious-ambivalent individuals, anger is triggered by fear of abandonment and a feeling of helplessness. For avoidant partners, the motivating force behind angry angry reactions is the emotional pain caused by the collapse of the façade of indifference and control. In the process of divorce, such couples become consumed by the struggle for power. Everyone is trying to regain a lost sense of control. Although a desire to discuss the current situation may be declared, there is a fear that this will be regarded by the partner as a sign of weakness and subordination. Suspicion leads to various manipulations and bellicose skirmishes. In an effort to gain the upper hand over the enemy, children can become involved in the fight. For example, everyone may have their own plans for the child, which are not discussed with him. An anxious-ambivalent mother, for example, can agree on a club for the child on the very day the child meets the father, and then blame the latter for not wanting to meet with the child. An avoidant father, faced with the fact that the child is absent or busy with something when he arrives , feels rejected and stops his attempts to contact the child. Partners with a mutual anxious-ambivalent attachment style. Marriages between individuals with