The human brain is unique compared to other animals. The animal is in the moment, if something is wrong, it gets angry and attacks or flees. But with a person it’s a different story, our characteristics, unique abilities can turn against us. And then a person, instead of changing something in his life, begins to invent fables. Relieving myself of responsibility for my own life, and justifying my inaction. I cannot change my job, it is impossible. I cannot get out of a relationship in which they wipe their feet on me. I can't help but yell at the kids, they drive me crazy. But the truth is that if a person is not in very difficult life circumstances, a prison, a concentration camp, then he always has freedom of choice. He can change his life beyond recognition. If he takes on that same responsibility and acts despite the difficulties that arise. The word “I can’t” can almost always be replaced with “I don’t want” or “I choose.” For example, I can’t get out of a relationship in which about me wipe their feet. You can replace it with I choose to be in such a relationship, because deep down I believe that I do not deserve the best, this is the only way with me. Therefore, I choose to endure and suffer, but to be with the one who is. In order to change your life, first of all you need courage, to regain responsibility for what happens in life. Seeing where “I can’t” changes to “I choose.” And replace “I can’t” with “I will act and still achieve my goal.” And here is a list of books that help us reconsider our attitude towards the situation in which we find ourselves, and most importantly, help us find the resources that we have a lot a lot inside. But unfortunately, due to our distorted beliefs about ourselves and about this world, they simply cannot break through and unfold completely. - Say Yes to life! Psychologist in a concentration camp. (Viktor Frankl) - Life without borders. The path to an incredibly happy life (Nick Vujicic) - Gift. 12 keys to inner liberation and self-discovery (Edith Eva Eger)