Fears... Surely, each of you has ever come face to face with your own or other people’s fears. It was scary, incomprehensible, and I wanted to get rid of them as quickly as possible. But fears are such a thing that they do not disappear at the behest of our first desire. On the contrary, sometimes they become even larger, more voluminous, and more terrible. They scurry around underfoot and keep getting into your eyes. And there is no escape from them and no hiding. What to do with fears? How to defeat them? How to overcome them? Clients often ask such questions. And I myself periodically encounter either new or already familiar fears. And how to stay alive in this case? Since I professionally periodically encounter the topic of fears, over the past years I have been interested in how fears are dealt with in different psychotherapeutic paradigms. I liked something. Something worked, after trying it on myself. Something caused mistrust. Of all the methods I have studied for working with fears, I especially love working with images and working with the body. Something that works and is quite effective. It would seem that there are proven methods of working with fears, live calmly and use them. But just the other day I discovered another method. And this is not even a method, but a discovery along the way... Perhaps it will be useful to someone, so I want to share. But first, a little background. Woman... Man... New relationship... Old fears... So they hover in these new relationships and prevent them from enjoying to the present... Periodically, a woman falls into hysterics, the origins of which she does not understand... She guesses... But these guesses do not help her... The next action of a man, which did not go according to her scenario, again knocks her out of the state - “Well, everything is fine... nothing bad happened”... Internal hysteria, tears... and then she understands what she is crying about... She is incredibly afraid of losing him... She goes to the window, and the windows in the room are lower than usual, almost to the floor, 7th floor... And then another thought comes to her, - she is insanely afraid of falling out of this window from the seventh floor... She looks down and these two fears turn out to be similar, like twin brothers. She is afraid of losing a man in the same way as she is afraid of falling out of a window... This realization makes her tears dry and she feels better... and for some reason, the possibility of loss is no longer so scary. After all, she has been living on the seventh floor for many years, she is afraid, but she hasn’t fallen out yet... She can even go to the window and look down. And why does she have to fall out of this window?... This conversation with herself helps her come to her senses... And, work through her fear... Here is an unexpected decision on what to do with fear. I found it quite effective. Formulate your fear and look in the surrounding space for what this fear is like, where its twin brother is in your life. And, if you can find ways to interact with one, then it is possible with the other. Lyubitskaya O.11.06.15.