One of the mistakes women make is that, in their opinion, sex with a man gives them some rights to this man. And that is why there are so many offended women who believe that men have used them sexually. And that's why there are so many books like "Why didn't he call back?" etc. So let's figure out what motivates a man when he meets a woman and invites her to have sex with him. For a man, sex can be: 1. A means of relaxation, a release of sexual tension. This is an elementary form of sexual satisfaction, and the emphasis is on the physiological needs of a person, and the qualities of the partner are almost indifferent. For example, one-time sex or masturbation. They say about this type of sex “Sex is not a reason for dating”2. A means of sensual pleasure, acting as an end in itself. The greatest importance is attached to the novelty and variety of erotic technology. Sexual satisfaction of a partner is included in the “rules of the game” only as a means to increase one’s own pleasure. Psychological intimacy is not necessary; sex partners can only be lovers, not delving into the details of each other’s lives. For example: it is possible to use all sorts of “toys”, various role-playing games.3. A means of sexual self-affirmation. What comes to the fore is a person’s need to check or prove to himself and others that he can attract, please, sexually satisfy. For example, teenagers and insecure men, or older men4. A means of cognition, the satisfaction of sexual curiosity. In a sense, sexual intimacy is always cognition. However, this motive can also be independently dominant. For example, teenagers who are beginning their sexual life as teenagers: “How does this even happen?” Or adult men: “How How does this woman behave in bed? "An anecdote on the topic: A woman goes to the theater with a man to understand whether it is worth sleeping with him, and a man sleeps with a woman to understand whether it is worth going to the theater with her.5. A means of achieving some non-sexual goals. Such goals may be material benefits (marriage of convenience) or increasing one’s socio-psychological status and prestige in the eyes of others. Thus, intimacy with a beautiful woman increases the prestige of a man, which is why many businessmen prefer to go out with long-legged models. Or young men may have affairs with famous or rich women, which will allow them to become famous themselves.6. A means of maintaining a certain ritual or habit. Marital kisses often do not have an erotic meaning, but emphasize the stability and stability of existing detachments. And this also has a certain meaning, because sex with a new woman can cause slight stress in a man (suddenly there will be no erection or she don’t like his figure), and all the wife’s reactions to sex are clear and familiar, and this makes her calm and comfortable.7. A means of compensation. This includes the search for various ways of emotional and physical satisfaction. A typical feature of this type of sexuality is constant dissatisfaction with its results. A person often does not know what worries him subconsciously, so he searches, searches, searches... And what he is looking for is unclear. Here can include non-standard sexual behavior (swing, sadomasochism, BDSM, etc.). Often a fan of role-playing games in BDSM, portraying the “Master”, in life is a modest and shy person, afraid to say an extra word to his wife. And here role-playing games are without prejudice for those around them, they help them relax and give free rein to all their emotions. But again, everywhere has its limits - some people can easily and cheerfully have fun and forget about it, but for others, certain games will become stressful for the rest of their lives. Ideally, you need to understand what exactly a person is trying to compensate consciously or unconsciously: to compensate for the lack of emotional warmth, to drown out some aggressive impulses, etc. Another example could be compulsive masturbation in adolescents, Don Juanism in adult men (in this case, for them important.