Alone or with You. The line of support. The crisis of three years in a child is indicated by the phrase “I Myself.” I will eat myself, put on tights myself and stomp my feet along the street. A child at this age explores the edge of independence and tries to at least partially distance himself from parental care and guardianship. Normally, after a while, the child understands that he cannot do everything in this world on his own, and he still needs parental help. In other words, the child goes through a gradual path from “You are everything to Me,” through “I Myself” to “sometimes I Myself.” and sometimes I am with You." But when the parental figure cannot be relied upon, then no “I am with You” comes. “With You” in this case is such an unsafe form of existence that trust does not arise. But rather, it just can’t take root. The experience of trust has not been formed, which means there is no way to rely on your neighbor. This does not necessarily manifest itself in distance, negativity or rejection. This phrase “I Myself” is simply very clearly visible. As an adult, it is easier for a person to complete work tasks independently than to delegate them. It is difficult for a person to trust someone with his rear. The very fact of relying on another seems to be a very risky and unsafe undertaking. Ultimately, such a person becomes the Atlas of his own life, unable to share this burden. And it's difficult. After all, people are people because they are social and interconnected creatures. Mutual assistance is the basis of the existence of Our civilization, which works well in a global sense, but is often lost in a single story. And here you can ask: “but isn’t it great if I can solve all My problems Myself and not need anyone? " You see, the key point here is not “I can” or “I can’t.” You can, there is no doubt about it, because you have been doing this for many years. The key point is in the word “easier”. The very fact of having a person nearby in your problem means that you are not alone. Being with Someone at Your point of difficulty is already a great support, which We often do not have. “Lighter” can be perceived as “cheaper” in terms of energy costs. And if I spent less, I can buy more. It's the same with life. And this is an excellent question, where you can save money.________________________________Psychotherapy within the framework of the Gestalt approach• Sign up in DM or on the website: http://psybox.su/