Many, if not all, mothers at some certain moment (usually before bed) ask themselves this question: “Am I doing everything right? Am I a good mother? And those who answer this question in the affirmative calmly close their eyes and plunge into the world of dreams, and those who cannot answer meet the well-known Mrs. Insomnia. So, the ideal mother - who is she? Ideal mother = happy mother = happy woman. Smells watery. But it is so. A happy woman is a confident, worthy woman who knows herself, her desires, needs, who knows how to recognize herself, hears herself, her feelings, emotions, who has lived all her fears, all her anger, all her insecurities, who knows how to enjoy solitude and from communicating with any person, focusing on his positive aspects. What kind of collection did this turn out to be? And what does it have to do with motherhood? I might be surprised. But it’s direct. A happy woman who knows herself, she knows how to communicate with other people without causing them or herself any inconvenience. He knows how to recognize another person, see his uniqueness, without forgetting his own, knows how to accept his worthy behavior, knows how not to accept unworthy behavior. A happy woman knows how to behave next to a person who is angry, irritated, afraid, capricious, worried, upset, because she knows what needs to be given to a person in such a state, because she knows herself and her emotions, she knows what it is, since she lived it herself. And this other person, how is he different from the child who appeared in the family? Nothing. A child is a unique person who appeared in a certain family, he has his own desires, his own character, his own temperament, his own inclinations, his own characteristics, soon he will have his own interests, his own environment, his own emotions and feelings, and so on. And now how is it all to tie? If a woman loves, respects, understands, knows herself, she will relate all this to other people, in particular to her child. And then the child is a priori destined to become a happy person. Living with a happy mother is not the dream of all children in this world. Pathetic introduction - but it was worth it, I hope. Let's move on to specifics. In our age of accessible information, most likely most women have approached this state, the state of a happy woman. At least, I want to believe in it unconditionally. But, for those who do not have time to study kilometers of megabytes of various articles, authors, webinars, books, videos, etc., I will give a list of knowledge that will help you achieve becoming a happy “mother-woman” and, as a result, happy person.Knowledge about feminine and masculine nature: - John Gray: “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” - Helen Andelin: “The Charm of Femininity”Knowledge about children's nature: - Faber Adele, Mazlish Elaine: “How to speak so that children listen , and how to listen so that children speak” - Julia Gippenreiter: “How to communicate with a child”, “We continue to communicate with the child. Right?”, “For parents: how to be a child” - Janusz Korczak: “How to love a child” - Carlos Gonzalez “Kiss me” Of course, this is not comprehensive information, but at first it will be enough to gain confidence and harmony in your relationship with yourself and other people. Next, I will give a number of points by which you can determine what is happening to the child now, what is inside him. Is he happy in his family? Is he happy? A child is happy if: 1) He laughs and smiles 2) He knows how to dream and fantasize 3) He has a desire to share his dreams and fantasies with his mother, since he feels safe in communication with her 4) He knows how to express his anger, so as not to harm himself and others5) He knows how to cope with his fears, he knows what to do with them, who to tell about them, how to get rid of them6) He often sees his mother laughing and smiling7) He can ask for his mother to play with him, he feels that she is really having fun and interesting, but he knows that she can’t always