The counterdependent doesn't need a relationship?💔 In fact, he needs love and intimacy just as much as you do. But the fear of showing your vulnerability becomes a serious obstacle. Moreover, the comfortable distance and speed of approach are different for everyone. You don’t need to throw yourself at a counter-dependent to melt his heart🙅🏼‍♀️ It’s better to forget about the drama and build a trusting and respectful relationship with him.❗️The first thing to consider: understatement can ruin any relationship. Talk directly about your desires with your partner. If both are satisfied with them and your life values ​​coincide, great; if not, then it’s better to let the person go.❗️There’s no need to save or try to become “special” for him. It’s easy to get involved in the triangle of codependency, but getting out will be long and painful 💔❗️ Respect personal boundaries. Surely they are wider than yours, and you will have to respect them. He will not forgive you for interference and unsolicited help. When he needs to be alone, give him this opportunity. Without unnecessary questions or clarifications.❗️The worst thing for a counter-addict is the fear of the unknown. Understanding that he can somehow predict your behavior will give him the peace of mind he needs. If you want real intimacy with a counterdependent person, forget about tricks and manipulations. The main thing is transparency, sincerity and openness. Only when your actions match your words can your partner begin to trust you a little. Counterdependence and codependency, which we have already talked about, are 2 sides of the same coin. And if you admit that you and your loved one have them, this is already a big step. For those who want to learn how to build a healthy relationship with a current or future partner, I am preparing a workshop 😉 Follow, I’ll tell you the details soon 🔥🔥🔥 I will be glad to see your comments and likes!) #psychology #psychologist #counterdependence #codependency #Tatyana Kolesnikova