More and more often, parents are faced with their child’s reluctance to choose a university. Seemingly prosperous, obedient children at this moment very upset their parents with their behavior. Where does this all come from? Where are the origins of this behavior? When a baby wants to wear a blue hat, but his mother insists on a red one, because it matches the costume better. When a boy wants to take a doll and play as a daughter-mother and hears disapproval from his father. When a child spills milk on the table, instead of a rag and the opportunity to clean up consequences of his actions, gets shouted down, mom cleans everything up because it’s faster. Then it’s even more interesting. What to do? Draw, sing, dance or swim. Who chooses? When to do homework and whether to do it at all - who decides? Now many teachers strongly recommend that parents do homework with their children and supervise them. And parents control, sometimes right up to high school. And so, at the moment when you need to make a very important choice, the choice of a profession, the child already knows two things very precisely: they will not give him anything to choose, the worst consequence of his actions is negativity from his parents. So he doesn’t choose anything. But he diligently does what he was told. Often he dives into virtual reality, where there is the possibility of elections, the possibility of victories and defeats. What to do? Let the child decide as early as possible. Let him play with the toys he chose, wear the T-shirt of the color he wants, even if it doesn’t fit at all. Let him face the consequences of his actions. Without a cushion in the form of parents who will scream, but will fix everything. If he doesn’t want to do his homework, let him face failures and troubles at school. Yes, you can help your child organize his day, help with some difficult tasks, but don’t do it for him. And don’t worry about his studies more than he himself worries. Focus on your life, this is how a child will best learn what a love of reading is, a desire to learn new things, the ability to set goals and go towards them, the ability to be happy. This path is much more effective than notations and control, boring lectures on how to live. And then the child will choose a university, or choose not to go to study, but to work. Some will choose to serve in the army. In any case, it will be his choice. And it will be easy for parents to be proud of their child, rejoice at his victories, support him if something doesn’t work out right away, and advise him when he asks. Perhaps this is what parental happiness looks like.