One evening in an ordinary classroom there was a meeting of ordinary girls, participants in a therapeutic group, which was conducted by the only male trainer, a kind of Zeus - the main deity of ancient Greek mythology, the personification of the boundless sky and the lord of lightning. one of the girls, named Mila, came out to work on the topic of reconnecting with her femininity. She passionately wanted to receive from a male trainer, as she said, recognition of her attractiveness, sexuality, uniqueness and everything else that would help her henceforth feel her “feminine power.” But the coach replied: “Mila, I’m afraid that I can’t help you in any way. After all, I’m a man. And I don’t know what it means to be a woman. As long as you try to reconnect with your femininity through men, you will do nothing but introject male expectations.” Therefore, you can turn to your femininity through the participants of our therapeutic group, because only through women can you find your “desired qualities” and form a basis for your feminine, even before starting a relationship with men. Otherwise, your identity. will be fragile, like the thinnest crystal, and will last until the first conflict with a man, because you were good only by receiving recognition here and now. If you agree, then act!” For me personally, that evening it was a revelation that every woman, consciously or unconsciously emphasizes its main “quality”. Whether it was clothes, hairstyle, manners, etc...."Uli's main quality (or manifestation) was coquetry, because she always wore hats and long gloves and was always trying to please someone. Anya’s “main quality” (or manifestation) was sexuality: and she seemed to have none of the external attributes that attracted men, but her movements were always smooth, her facial features were soft, and she was all glowing from within. Olya was the very spontaneity of a child: she could easily climb a tree and pick mulberries for the whole group, and she dressed accordingly, like a tomboy.)) And Yana was all tenderness and simplicity: she wore exclusively light dresses with small flowers and always spoke in a quiet, calm voice, and so on. In general, I lead all this to the fact that Mila approached each girl, and, aptly noticing, voiced their “main qualities”, to which, as in a mirror, she received feedback that everything this (to a greater or lesser extent) is also present in it. And it felt like every minute she was filled with the coveted “feminine power” and qualities that no man could now take away from her.