For me, to be myself is to stop resisting your nature, to stop trying to please everyone, and simply accept your individuality and uniqueness. To be yourself means to say goodbye to the fear of being rejected, not understood. Because Only by being yourself can you attract and keep in life people who need you, and not your universal mask - a good person. Universality of appearance and outlook on life is a stupid attempt to deceive yourself and everyone. There is no universal person. Only when a person does something in his own, special way can it evoke a response from someone’s soul. This is the only way to become meaningful and important to another, by showing your true self. There was a time when I read esoteric literature, where it was very clearly written how a real woman should think, dress, how she should talk to her husband and what to do around the house. Apart from the growing anxiety and feelings of guilt from inconsistency on some points, nothing has changed. Because if I tried to conform, rebuild myself, suppress my true desires and grow new, correct ones, I was not enough for a long time. And then, I just let go of unnecessary knowledge, relaxed and became myself. I thought that I was a good wife for my good husband, and goodness is different for everyone, you can’t please everyone. That my desires are my energy, enthusiasm and enthusiasm for life. As they say, there are desires from the heart and from the head. The desires from the heart are mine, but the desires from the head are someone else’s, imposed. Therefore, for me, to be myself is to be able to say goodbye to other people’s desires and rules, but to listen to my heart and follow my own path. The real me is me with my advantages and disadvantages, with the whole spectrum of feelings, my desires from the heart. The real me is when I don’t hide from shame that there’s something wrong with me that I might not like. This is when I accept myself. Being myself is scary and sometimes dangerous, but what if I follow the dictates of my heart, my nature, and nothing comes of it. Suddenly I show my real feelings, but they turn me away, it hurts. To be real with others requires courage and inner strength, because... Sometimes you have to defend your right to be yourself. Being yourself means following your own path through life with your own value system. It is important. Because This is our core - our values. From here, you should choose from a huge number of options exactly what suits you and at the same time cut off what contradicts your ideas about life. Therefore, I allow myself to say goodbye to people who bring complete chaos, uncertainty and despair into my life. I allow myself to tell myself No and Stop (you can’t do that with me). Of course, I choose the form of refusal that is inherent to me, I cannot sharply and rudely put a person in their place, but I can do it in my own delicate and categorical way, like me. I am real - very sensitive and emotional, very vulnerable, but persistent. I am real - strong-willed and stubborn, delicate and caring! It's me! author: Kuleshova Yulia