It is very difficult for women who have experienced divorce to begin to trust men again. If you were humiliated, offended and betrayed by a loved one, then of course you will then be doubly suspicious. And a new relationship may not work out because of this. A woman can remain alone for years, although there will be a desire to build a new family. To trust a man again, you need to stop comparing old relationship experiences with new ones. One of my clients went through a very painful divorce from her husband. He not only abandoned her with a small child, but also stripped her to the skin. It turned out that the client’s husband cheated on her, shamelessly gave her loans and robbed her. She was the main breadwinner in the family, and he used and deceived her. It was humiliating and very painful. A few years after the experience, she began to have men, but none of these relationships ended in marriage. At the stage when the candy-bouquet period ended, it was necessary to move to a new stage of the relationship and show more trust, she became suspicious, expected betrayal from the man, and in the end she left. During the consultation we made one technique. I am sharing it with you. I invited her to write 10 differences between her last man and her husband and ask herself questions: - How are they similar? -What is the difference? -Is it possible to build the same relationship with her current man as with her husband? -What is she like in some respects and in others? -What does he want in his current relationship? -Can I get this from a new man? The client saw that these were two different people and one should not expect the same actions from them. When we understand the difference between the images of men, we come to the realization that relationships can be different and will not necessarily end in breakup and humiliation, and we can try to trust again and give ourselves a chance to be happy. You don’t need to think that all men are the same as the one who offended you. There is no need to expect anything bad from him in advance. This way you will avoid repeating your negative experience, and you will be able to take a step towards a new life.